Am i being unreasonable to feel like life is against me?

[tooknackeredtoosleep]

I have had a terrible year. Its been so traumatic i dont even know where to start.

In the last year my husband has had suspected breast cancer (thankfully ok), my stepdad has incurable bowel cancer, my mother has breast cancer (thankfully early stage), we lost a best friend to bowel cancer in june, my husband was diagnoses and treated for malignant melanoma (cautiously optimistic prognosis). Today i found out my sister has had chest xray (long term smoker) today and immediately been referred for a scan to define results.

I am so exhausted i cant even think clearly enough to pose an exact question to you lovely mumsnetters.

I was treated for severe anxiety earlier this year (not surprisingly!) and although this was helpful i am now feeling like i cant cope once again. I suppose what i am asking is should i give in to the medication and start the anxiety medication the doctor recommended back in April this year? I am in such a state i cant think straight......

also i am not even sure of the best place to put this post!

[I wouldn't think AIBU would be the best place - maybe chat or health or mental health?]

You have had an awful year If the doc is offering anxiety meds then I think you should take them, it's no fun feeling so on the edge that you can't think straight :(

I hope all of them get better soon and that 2015 is a much better year for you all
x

thanks for your speedy reply, how do i move this thread to the appropriate place?

I'm sorry you've had such an awful time :-(

Personally, I would start the medication and also look for some other talking therapies. The anxiety medication, if it works properly, will get you to a point where at least you can think straight again.

Ive been off work with work related stress which led to anxiety.

Take the medication, I feel so much better for mine. I am reaching the point where I can consider going back to work without crying. It has really helped.

This is an unusual run of sad and difficult things to deal with.

My family & I have had a fairly challenging 18 months (no cancer, but rape, sudden death, mental illness & suicide).

The things that have kept me going? Antidepressants, a supportive work environment, lovely friends and humour.

Hang on in there. x

Morning :)

Just click on 'report' on your first post and ask nicely :)

You've had a tough year, sorry to hear that.

I think you should take your prescribed medication. It's not 'giving in' it is working with your doctor on a treatment regime. Taking a course of antibiotics is not 'giving in' to an infection and nor is taking medication for anxiety. IMO that is the first step in being able to cope with the run of bad events.

Sorry to hear you are having such a tough time.
Have a look into mindfulness - plenty of info on line and books on the subject.
It helped get me through cancer treatment and it still supports me now on dark days.