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Original poster

To be disgusted at an offensive, sexist FB post?

27 replies

Johnogroats · 15/10/2014 19:17

I am quite new to FB...I have used it over the past year or so to post family related stuff. Most of my friends are local mums or relations, with some old university or work colleagues. My boys 10&7 look at my account on occasion to see friends photos, ice bucket challenges etc.

So today up pops a generic post....
"Yes, your boyfriend is ok with doing this. Get over it.

10 sex-things-men-don-t-care-about. When it comes to sex, men don't care about much. As long as they're having it, it's all good."

And accompanying this was a photo of a couple shagging in a car. Although you could only see the girl.

I find this grossly offensive. Does it mean girls are meant to shag in cars....or that your bf will shag anyone as long as its in a car. I don't care and I didn't click the link.

I sent said friend an email saying it was out of order, demeaning and unfunny. Difficult to de friend as he is a sort of cousin, but I will if he tells me i am being po-faced.

Not going to link, but I would avoid the website Fgofaqones.com

OP posts:
SpringBreaker · 15/10/2014 19:20

grossly offensive?? cant really see that tbh

Nomama · 15/10/2014 19:21

Oh! I'd just put it down to him being a prat. All the rest of it is blah blah blah...

Tell your cousin he is a twat and all that post does is make him look utterly dumb... Tell him to ask any woman he knows if they find it funny, sexy or clever, ask them what one word comes to mind!

But as for all that other stuff... delete and move on!

SaucyJack · 15/10/2014 19:21

How do you know it was offensive if you didn't even read it?

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 15/10/2014 19:23

It's your adult account so perhaps your friend thought you wouldn't let your young children access it. I didn't let mine have either my phone or FB or indeed access to mumsnet that young.

Adults send things to other adults. They don't Expect children to be seeing.
As for the shagging in the car don't we all in our younger still living at home days.

wooooosualsuspect · 15/10/2014 19:24

Delete or hide.

kinkyfuckery · 15/10/2014 19:29

What is offensive and sexist about it?

PrettyPictures92 · 15/10/2014 19:40

What's wrong with car sex? >.>

Nanny0gg · 15/10/2014 19:44

Little arrow, top right-hand corner of post - drop-down menu - 'I don't want to see this'.

Problem solved.

LadyLuck10 · 15/10/2014 19:44

You need to stop being a drama queen and get over it. There's lots of 'offensive' stuff on fb, you will be in a permanent state of being worked up.

mommy2ash · 15/10/2014 19:46

i liked that link today. yabU to get offended at a link you didn't even click on the pics were like guys don't care you don't shave your legs they don't care if you have morning breath etc no need to be so uptight. I can't believe you sent him a message about it. what he does on his page is his own business

CherryDolphin · 15/10/2014 19:50

"grossly offensive"? Sorry I'm not really seeing that...so unless I'm missing something YABU, sorry.

DoJo · 15/10/2014 20:11

Are you disgusted because your boys saw it? Or because you really think that there was some intended pressure to make people have sex in cars? I really can't work out which bit of it upsets you so much - perhaps if you could clarify it would be easier to respond.

CherryDolphin · 15/10/2014 20:15

I don't think it's because her children saw it DoJo. I think it's because she thinks it's trying to say that women are meant to have sex in cars or men will have sex with anyone as long as you're in a car...or something Confused. And that offends her. At least that's how I read it.

ArabellaTarantella · 15/10/2014 20:20

You're over thinking this, OP.

MaidOfStars · 15/10/2014 20:28

In line with the other 'sex things men don't care about as long as they're getting it', it may have included 'there is a gearstick getting involved' or 'they have no legroom'?

But you didn't read it. Even so, I don't see how you think it saying that girls are meant to shag in cars or that boys will shag anything in cars.

Remove stick from arse?

Original poster
Johnogroats · 15/10/2014 21:15

Ok. Clearly IABU.

Thanks for the tip NannyOgg.

The way I read the link was that men expect women do whatever men want...if you don't like it, tough....implication being that he will look elsewhere.

And for those who say I should have checked out the rest of the post....seeing as I didn't like the taster, why look for more of the same. Ok it sounds like it wasn't that bad from what some of you have said, but I wasn't to know that.

Fwiw I am not considered uptight in rl but obviously you guys see things differently.

OP posts:
ginslinger · 15/10/2014 21:17

Some grumpiness here tonight Hmm

strawberryangel · 15/10/2014 21:39

I read that, and it was nothing like what you imagined. OK, so you didn't want to read it...but then why complain about it? You clearly had no idea what was in it, and yet you emailed your friend to make him feel bad about posting it. Have you apologised to him yet?

Patsyandeddie · 15/10/2014 21:48

Nothing wrong with sex in cars and most men admit that sex is sex, relax and chill out! If you don't have a sense of humour just delete it!

vestandknickers · 15/10/2014 21:51

Bit of an over reaction.

Children age 10 and 7 should not be on Facebook.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 15/10/2014 21:54

We and dh had lots of car sex in out teens.

If we tried it now paramedics would need to extract us and it wouldn't be pretty.

Age is a cruel mistress.

OraProNobis · 15/10/2014 21:55

This seems a bit like me saying 50 Shades of Grey is the most unutterably offensive anti-feminist shite ever written since pen first went to paper when I haven't read it and don't intend to. Which is why I'm not going to write that. Do you see OP? You simply cannot go getting into a complete froth about things that you haven't read and do not understand. It just makes you look silly.

steff13 · 15/10/2014 22:02

And for those who say I should have checked out the rest of the post....seeing as I didn't like the taster, why look for more of the same. Ok it sounds like it wasn't that bad from what some of you have said, but I wasn't to know that.

But you would have known it wasn't that bad if you had bothered to look. How is it reasonable to get upset about something you haven't read and thus don't understand?

steff13 · 15/10/2014 22:03

x-post with Ora, who said it so much better than I did (although I did consider making a 50 Shades reference). :)

SaucyJack · 15/10/2014 22:36

Bad analogy Ora cos if anyone's asking me your description of 50 shades was spot on.....

Twilight was possibly worse, but only just.