to not want to go on the hen night when pregnant?

[wanderingcloud]

Just that really... this is fairly lighthearted

So I don't dripfeed...

It's a family members hen night. I'll know the hen and other family (about 3 others out of 20) I'm a bit older than most of them and I'll be just hitting third trimester with DC3.

I can't remember the last time I actually enjoyed a boozey night out, about a decade ago probably! My own fancy dress Hen night days feel like a lifetime ago. I did used to be quite the one but now I'm fat, full of baby and permanently knackered.

Can't really afford it (will be borrowing funds from impending mat leave savings to pay for it) and paying to fund the free bar for all the hens that are drinking. I also have to travel twice the distance as everyone else as we don't live near family.

AIBU to just say I hope you have a fun night and see you all at the wedding? Or should I throw off my misgivings and live it up for 1 night?

I throw myself at the mercy of the MN jury...

Oh fuck that. I would feel a kidney/throat/non specific bug coming in and need to rest on consultants advice.

I wouldn't go anywhere if I couldn't afford it upduffed or not.

everyone will understand.

There's no way I would go under the circumstances you describe. During my pregnancy I went to one and bailed on one. I decided based on how preg I was, how good a friend they were, how comfortable I would be, physically, as a preggo (the one I went to was a relaxing weekend in a townhouse in Cheltenham and the one I bailed on was an all night clubbing session in East London) and cost.