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No heartbeat, can sonographer be wrong?

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Foetushost · 14/10/2014 19:14

Hi

I went for a scan yesterday. From my period dates I should have been 10 weeks pregnant. Sonographer said that foetus looks 8 weeks with no heartbeat.

I know it's a long shot but has anyone had no heartbeat and went for another scan and it was ok? I've had some spotting but definitely no bleeding.

I just want to know whether it's possible that sonographer got it wrong.

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worriedmum100 · 14/10/2014 19:53

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a missed miscarriage at around the same gestation a couple of months ago. I had several scans to confirm and also had no bleeding or cramps. I'd had early miscarriages before where I'd just bled spontaneously but not this time. The only sign I had was that my symptoms plateaued and then disappeared. It's incredibly hard. I hope you have lots of real life support. The EPU should explain all your options. X

YouAreMyRain · 14/10/2014 19:53

At 10 weeks a heartbeat is very clear. It was confirmed by another sonographer. I know you don't want to accept it, I'm so sorry.

lotsofcheese · 14/10/2014 19:55

OP, I'm so sorry. I have bee in that situation; I had a scan at 8+5 which showed a healthy heartbeat. 3 weeks later I had the tiniest bit of spotting & got checked out at EPAU. I'd also had a MMC at around 9+5, with no symptoms. I think MMC are so especially cruel, as you have no idea anything is wrong.

I can still remember the shock & disbelief, thinking that both sonographers must be wrong. I can still remember the colour draining from my face & looking at the ceiling as I couldn't bear to look at the screen.

I'm so sorry this had happened; miscarriages are just shite.

I had surgery for my MMC, I couldn't face the thought of a protracted natural m/c & my body clearly hadn't reacted after 3 weeks.

There is good support on the miscarriage boards, if & when you feel able.

Take care xxxxx

BirdhouseInYourSoul · 14/10/2014 19:59

I'm sorry OP. It's hard to accept but it seems unlikely that they are wrong.

I had a missed miscarriage with twins after 3 previous early scans showed heart beats.

I completely understand you hoping they may be wrong though. I begged for a 3rd opinion before I would even let them talk through the options. I eventually agreed to treatment (D&C) but I really found it hard to believe they were all right.

Please make sure you have lots of real life support and don't ever feel it's something you could have stopped.

HoldenMcGroin · 14/10/2014 20:00

I am so sorry

Lots of us have sadly been through similar. Holding out my hand to you.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 14/10/2014 20:06

I'm so sorry op, missed miscarriage is such a painful experience because there are no signs.

I had bleeding with my second pregnancy, and when scanned at 7 weeks they found I was expecting twins. Sadly by my twelve week scan there was only one heartbeat and the second baby measured about 10 weeks.

It's such a shock when you have no warning signs and it doesn't seem to me to be talked about very much even though it is actually quite common.

Mn is here to support you, it's a tough thing to deal withThanks

seasavage · 14/10/2014 20:43

So sorry for you OP.
I had a scan at just 8 weeks, all was fine. Then at 12 weeks no hb. The fetus still measuring at around 8 weeks. No bleeding at all (I'd prev mc with bleeding as the first sign around 8 / 9 weeks). It is a truly horrible moment and I still think of it.
My thoughts go out to you.

wantstolickwilliamgraham · 14/10/2014 20:54

Oh OP, I'm sorry Flowers

jamtoast12 · 14/10/2014 20:58

Oh I'm sorry op but agree it's unlikely to be wrong. I had a missed mc at 7 weeks growth and had no symptoms - only found out at 12 weeks scan. So I had 5 weeks with no pain or bleeding. It's awful :(

Levismum · 14/10/2014 21:02

Reading your post has brought back some very sad memories.

I was pregnant nearly 2 years ago. Private scan at 7 +2. Good healthy heart beat.

Went for my 12 week scan. No heart beat. Baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. I had an ERPC as i couldn't bare the idea of a prolonged natural miscarriage.

Take care. I think most women feel the disbelief you describe. Hope you have some RL support. Take care.ThanksSad

jellybelly701 · 14/10/2014 21:05

Unfortunately its unlikely they have made a mistake. I can sympathise how are you are feeling right now, I had a similar experience almost two years ago. Just know that this didn't happen because of something you did or did not do. Its just one of those shitty awful things that life sometimes throws at you.

I'm sorry you are going through this. do you have any support? Thanks

inconceivableme · 14/10/2014 21:28

I don't mean to offer false hope and really feel for you.

Please get as many extra opinions as you need to feel certain of the situation.

There have been literally a couple of cases, albeit well publicised and rightly so, where sonographers have got it wrong.

An internal scan should be offered.

MiaowTheCat · 14/10/2014 22:20

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Kasterborous · 14/10/2014 22:25

So sorry you are going through this OP. I've had missed miscarriages and they are horrible. Thanks for you

Lucylouby · 14/10/2014 23:12

I'm so sorry you are going through this op. It is the worst thing I have ever gone through, when I had my mmc. I had my first scan where there was no heartbeat, they got me a second opinion then and it was my hospitals policy to invite ladies back one week later for a further scan so I could be absolutely sure there was no heartbeat. But I knew. At the second scan they could see my body had started to reabsorb the pregnancy, it all over. I'm so sorry for you and hope you have someone to take care of you.

elliejjtiny · 14/10/2014 23:27

I'm so sorry. I've had 2 missed miscarriages, one at a similar stage to you and it's so sad. The sonographer did that thing where the blood flow shows up in red and blue to show me that there was no blood flowing through the umbilical cord which I found really helpful.

PoppyRose32 · 14/10/2014 23:48

So sorry. Something like this happened to me 13 years ago. Very sad. Take care of yourself xx

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 14/10/2014 23:56

Aww sweet heart. I understand where you're coming from. I had a mc in 97 and there is not a day that goes by when I don't think about my angel. I've dreamed about her.! She was/ is beautiful. You want to believe they've got it wrong, of course you do because you hang on to any bit of hope you have. It's human nature.
I wish I could tell you. They might have got it wrong but I do not want to give you false hope.

giraffescantboogie · 14/10/2014 23:57

So sorry for you

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 15/10/2014 00:24

Flowers They will probably give you another scan in a week's time to double check if you are still not bleeding. But I do agree that even if your dates were wrong there would usually be a visible heartbeat at 8 weeks. I'm sorry.

Hippymama · 15/10/2014 10:46

I'm so sorry to read this :( I had a MMC almost 2 years ago and know well the feeling of shock and disbelief. I had an ERPC as my body didn't realise I wasn't pregnant anymore. (I still had HG, which I thought was particularly cruel). I subsequently became pregnant 6 months later and my little boy is almost 6 months old.

I hope you have good support in rl, please be gentle on yourself xxx

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 15/10/2014 10:51

Really thinking of you op.

Please come back if you need to as obviously there's lots of support for you in here. Thanks

MyBaby1day · 15/10/2014 10:53

So sorry to hear that OP, if it is the case at least baby isn't suffering any pain Sad Flowers

Mammanat222 · 15/10/2014 11:01

Sorry to hear your sad news.

I too have suffered recurrent miscarriage and every loss has been devastating, but I do think being realistic has always helped me.

Sadly I concur that if the baby has been dated 8 weeks and there is no HB then it doesn't look like good news.

Keep yourself well and make sure you are kind to yourself, suffering a loss is horrendous

X

starfishmummy · 15/10/2014 11:04

I am so sorry.
I suspect that if there was any doubt they would not have said anything.

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