aibu or would you find this weird

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In laws visiting nearby and bring dh's niece who is same age as dd. They come for a cuppa and then when they leave at 3.30pm dn doesnt want to leave as playing with dd. I say she is welcome to stay and play with dd and when we all come over (holiday home less than 3 miles from me) for tea at 5pm I will bring her then. Means they could get unpacked and sort tea (they 'prefer' to eat there not here incase anyone wondering why im not cooking for them!)

Fil says 'nope dn comes with us'. No chat and mil just follows his instruction. Not said in a way that allows for further questions.
Both girls (age 5) cry and they tootle off.

Is this normal?? Aibu to think it is just weird?

I agree, it is weird and hurtful. I wonder what that was all about? I'd have to ask him myself... frosty attitude or not.

I've told my MIL that she is not to leave my DD with anyone else when she's visiting, because I don't want to get into yet another row with MIL where I have to justify why x is ok but y isn't, could it be something like that?

BramwellBrown that is exactly as thought. Not that I'd personally do it, but maybe that was the situation.

I think it's weird. You're family, not some random acquaintances and the girls were playing together. In my family, I can't imagine anyone baulking at that.

I don't find it weird - they have taken on responsibility for the day, not said they will leave her with anyone...

Did you ask if your dd could go with them and you would see her at 5?

There must be more t this - surely?