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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

...not to know how to react (linkedin related)

20 replies

YouMakeTheBunnyCry · 14/10/2014 15:36

I am going to try to be clear and short ;)

I had a job interview 10 months ago with a big company. I didn't have the job.

Fastforward to now. One of the people interviewing me added me on Linkedin. I accepted but I don't really know what to think.

He basically has a good job, in one of the biggest company in the country (world?) and I really don't. I am a little bit surprised he connected on Linkedin.

Obviously, he might just connect with everybody working in our field and add me without even remembering we had a job interview
so long ago.

Should I try to send message? And if so, saying what? "Hey dude, Wasup? Finally realising you made a huge mistake not giving me the job?"

I guess if he wants to tell me something, he will find his way to the message button. But even if he does add everybody inour field, should I give use this opportunity to send a message, and then again to say what?

Oh, dear, I am overthinking this, am I not?

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SanitaryOwl · 14/10/2014 15:40

Why would you send a message? I'm connected to hundreds of people - never use it for messaging.

Charitybelle · 14/10/2014 15:40

You're overthinking it. This happens to me a lot. Linked in is a professional network. Even though you didn't get the job, he's prob added you so that he can contact you if another vacancy arises. If they wanted to tell you something specific there would have been a message alongside the request.
Chill out, don't message him, and def don't say 'wasup' ever.....

flipflopsandcottonsocks · 14/10/2014 15:40

I guess it depends what field you're in? In my field it would likely meam something because it's quite a massive field, but if yours is small and exclusive then maybe it means nothing?

cozietoesie · 14/10/2014 15:41

I have a vague memory that if you're a Linkedin member, they sometimes send emails to everyone in your address book without necessarily asking you. Someone who knows it better might correct me though.

Thumbwitch · 14/10/2014 15:42

OVerthinking it and your message (joke though it is obviously meant to be) should never be seen on Linked-In.

Don't bother sending a message. They might be using it to keep an eye on where you are in your profession with a view to contacting you if a suitable job for you came up in their company - but they equally might not, so don't hold your breath!

ithoughtofitfirst · 14/10/2014 15:42

Are you fit?

uptheauntie · 14/10/2014 15:43

Overthinking it completely. It means nothing

SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 14/10/2014 15:52

Yes, over thinking it. It's a professional network, not Facebook. And you do have a professional connection to this man, even if it was brief. Maybe, he thinks he will have a vacancy that you would be more suited to in the future?

And if you do message him definitely don't use the terms 'dude' or 'wassup'.

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YouMakeTheBunnyCry · 14/10/2014 15:55

Wow, there really always be people that will find a way to make you feel like shit in AIBU, no matter what you post about or if you joke

Thanks for the answers. I wasn't really going to message him. I have already had people connecting with me and obviously never reacted, but as he is in that very renowed company and only a few people do our job, I wondered if i should use that tiny opportunity to create a contact with him (and being pushy).

I've got my answer, I won't

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Original poster

YouMakeTheBunnyCry · 14/10/2014 15:58

(But just to be sure, nobody REALLY believed I would ever message anyone using "dude" or "wasup", that I was just emphasising the dull side of messaging him... Right?)

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WorraLiberty · 14/10/2014 15:59

Could be an automatic invite. Have a look here

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YouMakeTheBunnyCry · 14/10/2014 16:04

Thanks Worra, I didn't know about that (but I think it only sends invitation to people in the address book, and we never had email contacts, I only saw him on the day of the interview, all my contacts were with a HR person ;) )

But it's good to know for the future.

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GilesGirl · 14/10/2014 16:06

I would contact him.

Dear Name

Thanks so much for adding me on LinkedIN. Not sure if you remember me or just add everyone in our field, but I really enjoyed meeting with you X years/months ago during my interview process with your company.

I hope you'll keep me in mind if anything else comes up!

Regards

YouMake

That's really what LinkedIN is for, after all. Building a network.

InfinitySeven · 14/10/2014 16:08

If they have a corporate LinkedIn account, which they probably will if they are a big company, then it stores everyones details - so he'll be able to automatically invite people who he has met but didn't email directly.

That said, if it works in your industry to reach out, go for it. It's not like you have anything to lose!

A big clue would be whether he looked at your profile. It'll tell you. If he did, it was probably a manual add. If he didn't, it can't have been.

KnackeredMuchly · 14/10/2014 16:09

I would definitely send similar to Giles' post.

PurpleWithRed · 14/10/2014 16:12

What Giles said. Although maybe your message would have more cut through...

vezzie · 14/10/2014 16:13

Some people add everyone they have ever had the slightest contact with. A good reason for doing this is, for instance, if you work in a field where there are restrictions on how you can use your contacts book if you leave to take another job. Moving contacts to linked in is a way of getting around that.

If you are thinking of contacting him, try and look out for a hook - a news article relevant to what you talked about at interview with an interesting angle on it or something like that - and then you can send it saying "I did enjoy meeting you and your team when I interviewed for x job, can't believe it was 10 months ago, time flies! - this is interesting, have you seen it? hope things are going well for you, would love to come and meet you all again if anything relevant comes up"

basically you want to work there right? so just be honest about that

InfinitySeven · 14/10/2014 16:13

I'd edit it and lose the PA bit...

"Dear Name

Thanks so much for adding me on LinkedIn. I really enjoyed meeting with you X years/months ago during my interview process with your company.

I hope you'll keep me in mind if anything else comes up!

Regards

YouMake"

GilesGirl · 14/10/2014 16:14

Infinity's is better.

Thumbwitch · 14/10/2014 16:50

I get lots of requests from people I've never had any contact with but who are in a related field - but I'm picky about who I link with and don't accept them unless I do actually know who they are. I think some people just go through all their 1st line contacts' contacts and see who else they can link up with (which is of course what networking is all about) but as I am fuck-all use to them in terms of that, I don't bother.

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