Which person is BU?

[IsabellaofFrance]

Person 1 and Person 2 are married.

Both are working from home, Person 1 finished at 1pm to go to the gym, Person 2 is still slogging away with paperwork. Person 1 returns from the gym and Person 2 is still doing paperwork.

The children of Person 1 and Person 2 need picking up from school. Its pouring with rain. Normally Person 2 would pick them up, but Person 2 asks Person 1 if they can do it because they can drive, and person 2 is still very busy.

Person 1 then surfs on Ebay for a bit, before finishing off some work. Person 2 comes home from school drenched. Person 1 takes one of the DC's to an out of school club, then goes to Badminton.

Person 2 thinks that Person 1 should have helped them out by doing the school run. Person 1 thinks that the fact that they took DC to an after school club means that they are equal.

Its blowing a gale here Worral.

Paperwork was essential and needed to be done for this morning.

Person 2 did dinner for the children and cleared up, Person 1 did dinner for the adults.

Oh this is silly with all this person 1 and person 2

Just tell him to pull his weight a bit more

Oh and remember, no-one dissolves in the rain.

I didn't want to put this in my OP as I thought it would influence what you thought about who was BU, but to add, one of our DC's has ASD and LD and HATES getting wet, which is why its a big issue redsky.

Oh just stop with this person 1 and 2 nonsense. It's pretty obvious which one you are.

Ask him to step up a bit more.

Redsky

My DS gets soaked, but he has no alternative. A bit of rain isn't going to hurt, but would you turn down a lift in shit weather? Of course not! Why should children be any different? A parent was available to pick them up and didn't as opposed to wasn't available.

I didn't want to put this in my OP as I thought it would influence what you thought about who was BU, but to add, one of our DC's has ASD and LD and HATES getting wet, which is why its a big issue redsky.

Well yes of course it would influence and rightly so

It's either a big problem or it's not

If it is, then it should have been included in the OP shouldn't it?

Ok so there's a drip feed and this person 1/person 2 nonsense.

It was obvious who you were with the word 'slogging', OP!

goodboy Actually I also got drenched in yesterday's rain, despite DH offering to pick me up, because I knew it would be a massive pain for DH to do so, and I could see that me getting wet actually made things easier all round (me getting wet not being a huge deal). Which is why I said upthread that you have to look at the bigger picture, not just a small snapshot.

(a) it's obvious which one you are so the "person 1" "person 2" is pointless,

(b) what is the point of asking who is BU if you don't include factors that will influence what posters think about who is BU? THAT'S EVEN MORE POINTLESS THAN THE "PERSON X" THING.

You are both being unreasonable. Person 1 for the whole messing about on eBay/children getting soaked thing, and you because you can't even put an AIBU post together properly.

the pretence of neutrality is kind of irritating, because the account is transparently not neutral. We can all see that you are person 2, and I wonder what the account would be like if told from you DH's point of view.

as presented, of course your DH is being unreasonable.

Obv you are person 2 and person 1 is your lazy-arse husband.
I can tell this because

• "slogging";
• it is a man-thing to come back all "I took them to a club SO WE ARE EQUAL". as if.
• person 1 and person 2 both cooked a meal, one for adults, one for children. no way would the person cooking for the kids be the man

one disclaimer: if one person drives and the other doesn't, the one who doesn't can get annoying if they expect constant support with day to day stuff because of it. if you can't drive you should be self-sufficient as a non-driver for things that have to be done often or every day. if this means moving house, or learning to drive: then move house, or learn to drive.

HOWEVER

• do person 1 and person 2 work separately or together? If you have two separate jobs from home, fine, he should have stepped up at home because you were busier. If you are running the same business, then why does your work take so much longer? He needs to step up at work AND at home.

• there is no point asking us. Your husband is a lazy entitled arse and there is nothing I, or we, can do about it. We can do even less about it than you, which is apparently nothing. Sorry.

I don't drive, DP does. I am perfectly self sufficient at getting about as a non-driver, but DP will always offer to get DS if it stops us getting soaked.

I don't drive for medical reasons btw, and we can't afford to move.

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People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world.