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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to wonder why people update their FB statuses so frequently when

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3LeetleKeettens · 13/10/2014 12:40

On holiday?

Mmmm nice weather

Cocktail time

30 degrees in the shade here

not a cloud in the sky again

A friend on my FB is updating about 7 times a day, wouldn't you be turning your phone off? And she is also posting in local groups asking what is causing heavy traffic in the area?!! Why does this matter if she is abroad?!

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Delphiniumsblue · 14/10/2014 07:18

I am sure that many people on FB shouldn't be on there - it seems to upset them so much! Why does it matter? Some people like to do it- if it irritates you de friend them or hide them.
Having talked to my sons I think it fairly hopeless if people are using it to keep track of their teenagers! I was completely unaware of most of the social media they mentioned and think that a lot of parents must be looking at FB accounts while their children are really using something else most if the time.

FreeSpirit89 · 14/10/2014 07:25

Facebook is a hard habit to break. Maybe she's having fun and wants to share the fact.

Asking about traffic reports are is abit odd though

TheLovelyBoots · 14/10/2014 07:26

Leave FB now.

AnnaFiveTowns · 14/10/2014 07:44

Yanbu. But the strangest updates are those that people do when they're on "date" nights, eg "Ooh, date night and DP and I are having such a wonderful, romantic dinner at X..." And I think, if it's so fucking wonderful then why are you on your phone?!

I think that we're becoming more and more narcissistic and some people have become addicted to having an audience.

raffle · 14/10/2014 07:57

I'm not on FB but I understand where OP is coming from.

I went to a concert recently with a friend, where she had her phone out and filmed the entire show. So she literally watched the whole gig thro the screen of her phone. And she was not the only one, a huge percentage of the audience held their phones in front of their faces for most of the show

Bloody pointless in my opinion, especially when we got home and found several people had uploaded to YouTube, so she really didn't need to record it anyway.

EveDallasRetd · 14/10/2014 08:12

Because she uses FB as a way to relax in the same way that other people read books, knit, do crosswords and chat - all things hat can be done by the pool.

TheLovelyBoots · 14/10/2014 08:54

Facebook replacing reading/knitting/crosswords/chatting is the death knell.

I hate social media, and hope that I am able to pass this onto my children.

JellyDiamonds · 14/10/2014 09:06

I've currently got someone like this on my Facebook doing this now. Checking in at every single bloody bar they go in and in depth descriptions and photos of every single meal, cocktail and fart that they do.

I just think shouldn't they be enjoying themselves and relaxing rather than filling Facebook with crap?

DuelingFanjo · 14/10/2014 10:08

"I just think shouldn't they be enjoying themselves and relaxing rather than filling Facebook with crap?"

If you are spending large parts of your day noticing what other people are putting on their facebook perhaps you need a break from it too?

EveDallasRetd · 14/10/2014 10:16

Add message | Report | Message poster TheLovelyBoots Tue 14-Oct-14 08:54:41
Facebook replacing reading/knitting/crosswords/chatting is the death knell.

I hate social media, and hope that I am able to pass this onto my children.

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The death knell of what though?

My mum is a knitter, she is very good at it but chooses to do such complicated patterns that she has to concentrate, which means no chatting/noise when she is doing it.

DH is a daytime reader, and can go hours without moving, talking or even noticing what is going on around him.

My BIL does crosswords/Soduku and many an evening I end up 'chatting' to my sis over text/FB because she's bored and/or lonely.

At least on social media I am chatting to others, widening my experiences and 'socialising'. I see no reason why I shouldn't do that on holiday as well as when I'm at home.

Delphiniumsblue · 14/10/2014 10:17

I hate social media, and hope that I am able to pass this onto my children.

I think that is a vain hope!! How old are they now?

NickiFury · 14/10/2014 10:20

More likely they'll just think you're a right misery guts about it and hide their social media use from you.

Delphiniumsblue · 14/10/2014 10:24

If they are young at the moment I would get clued up yourself-it isn't just a matter of FB-there are lots of sites you ought to know about like snapchat. They will find they need to be on FB to find out about social events.

Delphiniumsblue · 14/10/2014 10:25

Nothing more likely to send you to social media than a mother who doesn't like it and expects you to think the same!

TheLovelyBoots · 14/10/2014 12:10

The death knell of what though?

Hobbies that are mentally engaging?

Am I a misery guts for hating social media? Really? I think the real misery guts are the ones are constantly checking their phone (they're the extreme cases). Or the slightly more restrained ones who will seize any lull in an evening out to check their phone, and take 6 or 7 minutes to find their way back to the conversation. Worse yet, people who take endless selfies.

There might be reasonable users of social media, but to be honest I haven't met any. Granted, most social media users I know are teenagers.

My kids might become interested in social media at some point. My oldest is 12 and uninterested thus far (he's kind of a misanthrope, though, like his mother ) .

MiddletonPink · 14/10/2014 12:19

Status that made me smile the other week.

" date night with hubby, meal and cocktails blardy blah "

Then was updated every 7 minutes or so. All night.

Get off your fucking phone woman!

Newcollection · 14/10/2014 12:27

I went on a really lovely holiday this year and lost count of the number of friends who made me promise to post photos and updates on FB. Since getting back they've all said to me how much they enjoyed seeing them and how they felt they were almost there with me.

They are my friends though so weirdly they appear to be happy for me having a good time in the same way that I would be for them.

NickiFury · 14/10/2014 12:28

Is MN not considered "social media" then?

Newcollection · 14/10/2014 12:31

I agree that selfies are pretty dreadful but I like and enjoy FB (don't use any other social media). Used properly and with the right people i.e. real friends, it is a lovely way of keeping in touch and seeing photos that you wouldn't normally get to see and yes of 'pretending' to have looked through photos that would ordinarily bore the pants off you!

TheLovelyBoots · 14/10/2014 12:31

I, for one, do not consider MN social media.

Newcollection · 14/10/2014 12:32

Not sure Nicki although I regard it as an equally nice way to spend 10 mins whilst I'm having a cup of tea. It's connecting with the world isn't it esp if you are in a situation where seeing 'real' humans isn't possible right at that moment for whatever reason.

spiderlight · 14/10/2014 12:32

Depends why you're doing it. We went on holiday a few months back and some friends recommended two particularly lovely vegetarian restaurants that we'd never otherwise have found. I 'checked in' on FB and took pics of my amazing desserts at each of them and it let our friends know we'd found them and sparked a lovely thread with them reminiscing about having been there last year, and other friends from the area whom they didn't know popping up to say they'd been there/were going to find them etc. I didn't actually see any of this until I got home but for the sake of a ten-second update it was a really nice outcome.

Slh122 · 14/10/2014 12:33

Life would be boring if we were all the same. Live and let live.

Newcollection · 14/10/2014 12:33

LovelyBoots it is different in that it is anonymous but it is certainly a very modern way of communicating rather than over the garden fence of 20 years ago.

TeaspoonAndAnOpenMind · 14/10/2014 12:39

of course MN is social media, just like any other online forum. Plenty of interest, plenty of inane nonsense, hell, we even have pictures now. Just because we're free from tickers and like buttons doesn't mean we're not social media.

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