I asked to borrow money because DH messed up the tax credits renewal and she said no. Ok that's fine she said she isn't doing me any favours by helping. Whenever I ask her to look after my dc because I am busy she says no. If she does look after them I usually get a phonecall within two hours telling me to get home because she can't handle them anymore.
Well she forgets that since I was 15 I have looked after my sister for her to work. I have done this regardless as to whether it interferes with my plans. Whether I am ill. Or whether I have just given birth.
So Aibu to think that as she thinks I need to learn to stop relying on her for the meagre amount of help she gives then she needs to lead by example and look after her own daughter. My DH also does all her diy free of charge.
The only problem is I will miss my sister terribly so am I biting off my own nose disputed my face. Or should she learn that you only get what you are willing to give.
I look after my sister daily taking and picking up from school. I look after her when she is ill. Have stayed in hospital overnight with her many times (she is a self harmer) and she sleeps over mine every Saturday and Sunday night for my mum to work. I do all this free of charge disputed the fact I have bipolar 1 and a severely disabled dd.