to think it wasn't dds fault her toddler got hurt?

[HighwayDragon]

We were at soft play yesterday, it was exceptionally busy (rainy day) dd and her friend go running into the big frame all excited, about 10 minutes later dd who is 4 emerges with a bawling toddler. This little lad was about 18 months old, 2 at the oldest. She bought him to me and said she had knocked him over by accident, his mum comes rushing over and asked what happened in there and dd says to her 'I ran into him because I didn't see him and he fell on his face' This woman then tells dd that she was very naughty for hurting her son and that she needs to be careful and not hurt other kids (dd started to cry) Well I'm afraid I was not happy and told this woman that it was not my dds fault she had let her baby in there and that she was responsible for what had happened, woman huffed off and I thanked dd for having the sense to bring him out to me and not leave him screaming in there.

Wibu? Dp thinks I shouldn't have said anything, but this woman had told dd off for something that was an accident, and wouldn't have happened if she had been supervising her toddler.

I do let my 2 year old in the big play area. But this wasn't your DD's fault. I'd have said thank you for bringing him out and what a kind girl you are.

You did the right thing op and should be very proud of your DD.

moaning yes, the ops DD was running around in a soft play area not entirely looking where she was going (heaven forbid!!) it's likely however that a older child would be less likely to get knocked down (sturdier) and less likely to be hurt and upset about it. Poor little chap, who lets their little one in the area with the big kids to get jostled and knocked about?

I don't go to soft play at the moment, as DD is too big for the baby area, yet too small for the big area without me. Since I can't generally be bothered to crawl about with her, we don't go!

Haing said that, I should take hera bit, so she gets used to being big, and not hitting little ones. I'd like a DD like yours, OP!

It was an accident, kids bang into each other running around at soft play.

I also let 18 month-2 year olds unsupervised in the play frame at our local soft play though.

If she's going to let her toddler into the big area, unsupervised, then what does she think will happen? She was terrible to tell your DD off, she should have said thank you and then walked away, the fact that your DD had time to bring the little boy to you shows that the mother just wasn't watching.

There are age appropriate areas in soft play for a reason, they should be compulsory because otherwise you get stupid mothers like this one putting 4 year olds on a guilt trip for doing the right thing. Shel be the one complaining when her 4 year old DS can't run around properly because of all the toddlers in the way.

YANBU.

YANBU and your DD sounds very caring too.

Accidents happen. Kids get a bit over excited at these places. What matters is how it was dealt with.

Your dd sounds lovely and the fact she owned up to what happened and brought him.out so a grown up could check he was ok speaks volumes.

If someone let's their small toddler pay in the mainframe part with the bigger kids then they have to accept that there's a risk.

Your dd was very grown up well done to her

Yanbu your dd sounds very kind and responsible the other mumwas a loon soft play is like warfare she should have been watching her toddler. I probably would have told her that