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To say a quick thank-you to the brand-new mum in M&S cafe yesterday.

72 replies

Iffy2014 · 12/10/2014 09:21

Just in case she's an MNer!

Took my 88-year-old granny out to town for a walk around the shops and into M&S cafe yesterday. Whilst we were eating, you came in with your partner and four-day-old son (gorgeous). You were sat right behind my gran's seat, so she could hear the baby, but didn't want to turn around and make a nuisance of herself by butting into your cup of tea.

Cue lots of cooing from the rest of the customers/staff, naturally!

As you got up to leave with your baby, you brought him over to my gran for her to see him properly, and let her touch his tiny little hand. It's been a long time since we've had a baby in our family, and it clearly made my gran very happy to be introduced to someone else's little bundle (she raved about the "'andsome boy"! she'd seen for the next hour or two).

To the very new mum of this gorgeous little boy: thank you for sharing him for just a moment, when you were busy enjoying a day out with your new little one. You brightened up an old lady's day, and I hope you and your son and partner had a lovely day yourselves enjoying being a new family.

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Woobeedoo · 12/10/2014 11:09

Aww, that's so lovely - made my eyes go all leaky.

fizzymittens · 12/10/2014 11:13

Oh my goodness, that is such a lovely little story. Thank you for posting it.

ApocalypseNowt · 12/10/2014 11:16

That's lovely! What a sweet story.

It reminds me of a great aunt of ours. At our wedding we put her and her husband (they were in their 80's & 90's) on a table with dh's brother, wife and dd and a cousin and his wife and 2 dd.

A few months after our wedding we saw our great aunt and she gave me a big hug and told me how pleased she was that we put her on that table with the little ones. She said at those sort of events they usually get put on a crap table with a load of other old people and how lovely it was to be with the youngsters for a change. Smile

drbonnieblossman · 12/10/2014 11:24

That's heart-warming.

I think if you feel well and ready and baby is well and warm there's no harm at all in venturing out as soon as you want/need. We took dc to a little country pub for lunch (post smoking ban!) when he was a couple of days old. I'd had a good birth experience, baby was well and we wanted to show him off, if honest! A lovely lady at the table next to us have my baby his first pocket money, being a £1.00 coin. So kind and thoughtful.

It may have made your gran'so day OP, but it will also have made the new mum feel good too.Smile

ChunkyPickle · 12/10/2014 11:24

Aww that's lovely.. I don't mind sharing my babies, most people are so nice about it, and a second pair of hand occasionally is useful.

I've had 2 c-sections, and with each I was up on my feet as soon as the epidural wore off (wanted to get out of the hospital as soon as possible), and out and about (gingerly, not for long and not far - especially with the first one) as soon as I was home (

FelixFelix · 12/10/2014 11:27

I don't see a problem with being out with a 4 day old baby Confused I took dd out at 6 days to Debenhams cafe as I was going crazy stuck inside the house. As long as the Mum is feeling well then what's the harm?

Anyway, I may have cried a little bit as this story Blush

Pensionerpeep · 12/10/2014 11:28

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WorraLiberty · 12/10/2014 11:44

Lovely story OP, I hope you/your Mum thanked her at the time.

But am I the only one surprised at anyone being out with a four day old baby if they didn't have to be?

I'm not sure what's surprising about that?

squoosh · 12/10/2014 11:51

Consider my cockles well and truly warmed.

Nanny0gg · 12/10/2014 12:17

Lovely!

I must admit I'm still amazed at women who can do the school run the next day. It's probably a mixture of envy (I couldn't move for ages) and old-motherly concern about germs and remembering how we were kept in for a week under the beady eye of the ward sister.

As to Sharing snuffly newborns about definitely counts as philanthropy. Toddlers not so much - my just-about-a-toddler DGC will bore holes with his eyes in the side of your head till you turn round and give him some attention, Your reward? The happiest toothless grin you'll ever see!

Fluffyears · 12/10/2014 12:20

Aw so nice your gran sounds lively and the wee lad must've brightened her day. Hope that mum knows what that gesture meant. More nice stories please although I couldn't eat my mars bar due to throat lump.

Only1scoop · 12/10/2014 12:23

I know nanny.... I remember first trip out was an unavoidable trip to Ikea....we moved to new house day after dd born bloody nitemare....

She was almost a week old remember having to get her out of pram and feed her in Ikea cafe....terrified....testing the plastic chair for sloppiness....thinking I'd drop her....

I've never been a natural with a baby....

WutheringFrights · 12/10/2014 12:29

When DS was a couple of weeks old I popped into a cafe for a coffee. There were two ladies (mum and daughter) sat at the table next to me who told me that their new grandson/greatgrandson was 4 days old but he was a long way away so they had only seen him on Skype.
The great granny eventually asked if they could have a cuddle....and I got to enjoy a hot cappuccino (probably the last hot drink I had!).
Share the baby cuddles - they are the best thing in the world!

wheresthelight · 12/10/2014 12:38

Awww how lovely!!! I hope she reads this and smiles!

I never understand why people get so het up about people wanting to say hello to babies and coo over them. when dd was tiny we couldn't go anywhere without elderly ladies stopping to say hello and tell me how beautiful dd was (yes I know they say it to everyone but as a new mum with anxiety it was fantastic). they absolutely made my day and still makes me grin like a loon when people stop me. never really thought that actually it probably makes their day too to be able to connect with a baby.

excellent thread op!!

squoosh · 12/10/2014 12:42

Makes a nice change from the threads where people are freaking out because a stranger held their baby's hand or patted their baby's cheek.

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 12/10/2014 12:46

I've got something in my eye Smile

Only1scoop · 12/10/2014 12:47

Squoosh....well said I hate those threads ....

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 12/10/2014 12:50

Awwww. Such a cute and lovely story. Love newborn babies and animals.
4 days old. How adorable and to think this time last week. He was still in the womb. It's amazing.

OOAOML · 12/10/2014 12:50

That is sweet. I'm impressed at being out and about at 4 days though - first time round I was in hospital for 5 days (emergency cs) and for about a week after that I was doing well if I'd got dressed and brushed hair and teeth by mid-afternoon. Second time round I had a natural birth but found it difficult to sit down unless on a cushion for several days. I think we went out to soft play when he was 7 days old, but that trip took us hours as he fed for ages.

Jill2015 · 12/10/2014 12:51

Aww, what a lovely thing to do.

Andcake · 12/10/2014 12:52

Lovely - the old and young need to mix more. I often thought maybe elderly pop in centres could invite new mums along -as all around in day time and mums could have a a hot drink whilst the others got cuddles and varied company

NancyJones · 12/10/2014 12:55

Cider, with my first I left hospital 5hours after giving birth and we popped to tesco on the way home for some good and extra baby stuff. I was fairly exhausted by day 3 but from birth to day 3 I felt like I could run a marathon.
Not a boast, just think it affects different women in different ways. It may not have been her first either. When I had my fourth the other 3 were at school.

Lovely story though! X

sandgrown · 12/10/2014 12:59

What a lovely story it made me cry but in a nice way Smile

whattheseithakasmean · 12/10/2014 13:03

What a lovely story.

I remember my mum telling me when I had my first that old ladies, who had been widowed for years, often did not have much chance for hugs & physical interaction. I always remembered that and made sure to offer my baby for cuddles to older people.

Now my children are older, I love a baby cuddle myself.

To those posters 'surprised' (euphemism for disproving?) that a 4 day old baby was out with its mum, let me 'surprise' you more. My baby was feeding the ponies with me the day after she was born.

Nicola19 · 12/10/2014 13:03

That OP made me just shed a tear into my pasta.