First time post in AIBU...really need some perspective on this. Apologies finite turns out long but I am trying to avoid drip feeding.
So we get on quite well with ndns - we don't socialise with them but always have a chat when we see them, exchange presents for the dcs at Christmas etc. One previous run in when we installed CCTV. Ndn came round all guns blazing because we hadn't asked permission - which is true but as the cameras didn't capture any of their property it didn't cross our mind. That all seemed to blow over.
Anyway, we share a drive which originally led between the houses to garages in each of the gardens. Garages have long since been demolished so no need for access. Both houses also have individual drives for parking. Our street is permit parking during the day.
Ndns parents mind their DCs. Rather then pay for parking permits they park on the shared drive. This does irritate me as it means that the facility is never there if I have a visitor but I have never said anything. However yesterday my DM had helped out with my DC in the morning and I had invited her to stay for lunch after dropping DC back. There were no spaces on the street within a reasonable distance. So, shortly before she was due Dh went and asked the GPs next door if they could move their car up so DM could pull on behind them. They said they would but didn't move the car.
10 minutes later DH went and asked again as DM was on her way. He was told "in a minute " and had the door shut in his face. Minutes later the GM knocks and tells DH that she needs to go out at 2.30. DH says fine, DM will be gone by then. But if not just come and knock and she will let you out. As it happens DM was gone by 1.30 anyway.
Fast forward to 5.30 and Ndn knocks at the door asking to speak to DH. He then immediately leads off about how dare you be so rude to my Mum, I can't believe you would have made dcs walk home from school in the rain, I'm not having this etc.
DH says basically that he has no idea what he is talking about, that all he had done was ask for the car to be pulled up and hadn't been rude. Ndn isn't having any of it, refuses to explain exactly what was alleged to be "rude" and finishes off with "if it happens again I'll be knocking again and next time it won't be for a talk".
We are totally stunned by this reaction....we can only assume that the GM may have embroidered the story but in any event we can't believe that DH has been threatened with violence. My instinct is that ndn has been massively u, but were we actually u for asking to share the shared drive?