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To be furious that my line manager hasn't yet given my new employers a reference?

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JellyDiamonds · 11/10/2014 15:07

A fortnight ago I was interviewed for and then offered a new job. I accepted and then handed my notice in with my current employers the following day, I'm now in my notice period with two weeks left. I had to give the names and addresses of three referees, one of whom HAD to be my current employers. Fair enough!

On Thursday late afternoon the person who I will be reporting to in my new job phoned me to tell me that whilst my two other references had responded they still haven't received a reference from my line manager, this is despite them contacting her twice. She then asked me if I could chase it up but when I tried to contact my line manager on Friday she was apparently out of the office for the day!

I cant say I am especially surprised as my line manager is the most incompetent person I have ever met in my entire life, and is the main reason I am leaving. I should have known this would happen, but I am so fucking angry! I was really looking forward to starting my new job, a fresh start and new challenge but obviously I won't be able to start without this reference from her!

She has been in the office as I've seen and spoken to her, so there is no excuse for this. It's just laziness and a lack of consideration for anyone other than herself. In three years I've never had a day off sick and have gone way beyond the call of duty but the unless bint can't even do the decent thing and provide me with a reference.

I'm going to chase it up on Monday but I don't know how to deal with it? I'm worried that I will blow my top and all of the resentment I have will come tumbling out.

Surely withholding a reference is against employment law?

OP posts:
Bailey101 · 13/10/2014 18:14

It's perfectly legal to give a bad reference, as long as it's factual and doesn't involve conjecture, for example you could get into hot water for saying ' x was fired because we reckon he's a thieving wee scumbag' but it's absolutely fine to say 'x's employment was terminated due to allegations of theft'.

BookFairy · 13/10/2014 18:22

YANBU I recently waited 7 weeks for the HR department of a previous employer to provide an evidence. I called them so many times it was ridiculous. Very unprofessional.

HappyYoni · 13/10/2014 19:05

Did you check with her first that she was happy to give you a reference? Because as others have said she's not obliged to provide one. I would always ask my current employer if they are happy to give a reference and then wait for that to go through before I give my notice in.
It's a ball ache but saves the worry.

ChestyNut · 13/10/2014 19:10

We're you offered the job subject to satisfactory checks? Reference etc?

Our organisation tells you to wait until all checks through before handing your notice in. What if they withdraw due to poor reference or something?

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