About this meeting today

[CleaningOnSick]

i have name changed as this will out me.

My boss commented today that me putting house all cleaned on Facebook, while I'm off on the sick from a cleaning job could set a bad image. The thing is DH and I do it together and I am able to rest as and when needed and doing light cleaning.

I said that DH does most of the work.

Was I wrong putting that on Facebook

Mistake one - having work people - in particular your boss, but, in truth, any colleagues - on FB

Mistake two - making a 'thing' of the fact your house was all cleaned, when you are apparently, not well enough to do your job, which is ...er... cleaning!

Not sure from your post where a meeting comes into it, but your boss has a very good point.

You can unfriend your boss, but you don't need to. Just create a group with your boss in it so she/he doesn't see your updates.

Unless your boss is a personal friend, I'd question why they are adding you to FB. It smacks of keeping an eye on people, IMO.

Ha ha - point taken, Pictish! Agree I sounded like an arse.

Why did you send your boss your medical notes?? that's totally unnecessary. Your GP signs you off and you send the line in. Do you really want anybody other than medical professionals reading your confidential medical file?

YABU to post about cleaning when you are signed off from a cleaning job.

Firstly, unfriend your boss!

I do have a mate who has multiple friend categories on FB (so her relationship angst doesn't go to her mum, her work grumbles aren't seen by her boss), but if you CBA with that, just get rid & block. Allow them to think it's because you've stopped using your account.

Secondly, everyone knows that if you are well enough to update FB, you are well enough to be at work down t'pit/pole dancing/running the country. Or something.

A workmate of mine once posted at 7pm that she was enjoying a nice meal out, & again at 2am, that she was throwing her guts up. She was in fact at Pizza Express with her sister celebrating her nephew's 7th birthday, & then succumbed to a 24 hour bug that was going round.

Someone else at work saw this on FB, assumed she'd been out partying, & snitched to the boss when she wasn't in next day.

My workmate ended up having to explain, to our boss, that she couldn't sleep at 2am after honking up, & updated her status in a moment of self-pity before rushing back to the loo again.

It made her look a total wally, even if he'd believed her - & he made it clear he had his doubts.

Basically, a) never have your boss as a FB friend & b) never post anything without envisioning how it might be interpreted by unfriendly eyes c) lock down your privacy settings & d) if you must be indiscreet on FB, have an account with a false name.

I kinda agree with your boss not well enough to clean at work but at home does sound a bit iffy.

However I do also think the fact boss asked you to be a friend is a spying act and would unfriend them.

I have 2 fb accounts one for my friends and one for aquantances and work people.

definitely change your settings, my sister has a huge number of "friends" on fb but has her settings so that only her real actual friends can see stuff.

You are signed off by a medical professional after undergoing surgery, your boss has no right to question that. This isn't like you self certified and were seen shopping and lunching.

I think given the nature of your job it was a bit disingenuous to post what you did to be honest. I can completely understand being off sick and having to / being able to do things, but in general I'd avoid advertising on Facebook in future.

Obviously it depends on your job / ailment but in general for a short term physical illness I tend to assume 'off work' = 'at home resting' as far as possible.

Yes, get your boss off your facebook somehow! I don't think it's bad at all to say that you've got a nice clean house on FB except that your boss is on it, you are a cleaner, and were sick. Then it might be a bit dodgy to Post it, but not actually to do it, IYKWIM. Nothing wrong with keeping up the house even if you are sick...I do this all the time.

I also post very boring pictures of a special dinner I created and was proud of, and other boring things. I have only a few FB friends and they can choose not to read my boring posts. Not that cleaning house is all that exciting, definitely not, but I see people 'bragging' about where they are, what they are doing, who they are with, etc. as sometimes boring as well. Of course not everyone, and of course not even from the same person. Some things genuinely are exciting...some, let's face it, are just bragging. And are boring for me to read.

I can see my boss point of view now.

I work cleaning in a hospital so it is very hard work.

I only put in on Facebook as I was proud of the fact for the first time in over 2 months I have had a lovely clean and tidy home.

Why do people think their boss doesnt read facebook? In London before they even interview they check your facebook to check you out. This is why i dont go on it, no-one is getting their grubby voyeuristic mitts on my private life thx v much. And no I am not paranoid, i have just a) been stalked so i know not to give anyone too much personal info b) i have seen 3 work colleagues disciplined for comments made on facebook and these were really intelligent people i know and admire. Its not worth it to me and i dont get modern need to be 'look at me & my life' tbh.

Of course you could have said no to your boss being your FB friend. I do have some colleagues as friends, but not my boss. (His FB settings are wide open anyway, so I don't need to be friends if I wanted to see what crap he's up to. He's in IT, and he has no security settings tightened up?) Not that I post anything I need to hide on FB, because I don't trust it anyway to put anything that's really private there, but I decided I'd only have FB friends who I'd be prepared to go to the pub with IRL, and I'd only do that with him on official work things where there's not really any choice.

I'd just block the boss. What will happen is that you see no sign of them, and they see no sign of you, but they don't get a message that you've blocked them. You can also set groups of friends, and restrict posts to be only visible by certain groups, but I wouldn't trust FB not to change its settings without mentioning it to be sure that stays.

And I know I can't be found that easily, because a friend was trying to find me on FB and couldn't - in the end, she mailed me a link to her profile, and I sent a friend request to her, rather than vice versa.

I am with ThePinkOcelot and Rafflesway on the whole FB thing - it's tosh.

I think your FB account must be a very dull thing to read. You post about cleaning?

I sometimes wonder if I am missing out by not using Facebook .............. clearly not judging by this thread .

Don't let him see it. i am off work and i feel guilty if i go anywhere so have been at home for ages. you still need to do stuff.

I'm not friends with anyone at current work on fb and will keep it that way.