To wish I'd said something

[Poppiesinautumn]

I just saw a woman who stole at work in mcdonalds.

I'm really wishing id confronted her now but by the time I realised it was her she'd gone.

We were all so shocked by her actions but did I do the right thing not saying anything

What did she do? We need a few more details to help you with this.

What do you think you should have said then ???

Do you also work at mcdonalds?

If she lost her job because of her stealing then I have no idea why you would feel the need to 'confront' her in McDonalds unless you were personally impacted by the stealing?

No lol neither does she she was eating there, I went to get some tea before work.

She stole money from an elderly lady who is just lovely and has dementia.

If you saw her steal money from a vulnerable old lady call the Police

Not sure why anyone didn't say/do something. Why fear challenging that ?

That type of crime deeply upsets me.

Of course they did and I didn't see her do it.
Someone suspected in her family and installed CCTV and that was how she was caught.

But I don't know losing her job just didn't feel enough, somehow and I felt like I should say something just hoping she'd feel ashamed.

Obviously if I'd seen it myself I'd have notified the police and my bosses immediately.

I am not following this now....

If you saw nothing then what would you say??

What do you think 'saying something' aka making a scene at her place of work would achieve? Other than make you feel important and add drama to your life?

She did something very wrong and was quite rightly punished. No need for you to do anything.

I think I get it.

You saw a woman eating in McDonalds. You recognised this woman as someone who stole money from an old lady. You know this because you were told (didn't witness it yourself).

You wished you had approached her and said something.

You didn't approach her.

YANBU for being quiet. It's not your business.

Ahhh, I get it. Previously she was stealing in her old job, was caught and punished.
You went to MacDonalds for a meal and saw her eating there.

Unless it impacted on you hugely, what would you say ?

sits on hands

Did she pay the money back? Did the family press charges?

Regardless, if it's been dealt with, it doesn't really make much sense for you to addres it with her yourself. You don't have to be nice to her, but there's not really any reason to confront her.

Another strange one.

I kind of get what you're saying, if it is that you'd like the chance to tell her how it wasn't just the company who found it wrong, but you personally, too.
I think you'll never really get the right opportunity to do that, so draw a line under it, and be glad she was caught at least.

Thanks bloody :)

(She wasn't working , she was eating.)

All it was is she's an ex colleague and I know she got sacked for stealing from this lovely old lady I work for as well that's all

So she was caught, lost her job, were the police involved in the report of the theft? I'm not really sure why you felt you needed to confront her at all - would you prefer that those with criminal records/ people who have committed offences never went out again?

Just pretend you didn't see her and if you see her in a public place again take no notice. Even murderers can go to McDonalds after they get parole.

Yeah I know stupid isn't it sorry . It was just a surprise seeing her and made me feel angry.

It's a good job you kept schtum. Such an exchange would make you look like a fishwife and feel degraded.

So basically you want to punish her further based on hearsay.

You might want to work that...

It's not here say. She was dismissed for it.

Just saying :)

She's been punished as you said she was fired - I should imagine the police have been involved and she has been or will go to court.

It is really not a good idea for you to be confronting her.