WIBU to send a note to this mum via the teacher?

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DS is lego mad and loves to carry his minifigures about with him. He knows I don't allow him to take lego out of the house as he has a tendency to lose it.

Anyway, a few days ago he took two figures to school and gave them to another boy. They came from an expensive set and would be very dear to replace. From what I can gather, another boy asked him for them and DS gave them to him. At almost 5 he doesn't fully understand that when he lends something he may not get it back. He asked this boy for them back for the last two days and this boy says he doesn't know where they are.

WIBU to write a note to his mum asking her if she has seen them and could they be returned (assuming she knows where they are). I appreciate lego may not seem like much, but it's flipping expensive!

Personally I wouldn't ask the teacher. Been there before with ds(now 10) on both sides, he took in 2 of his favourite rare pokemon cards (sell for £20 each on ebay) and swapped them for a load of worthless normal cards.

When he came home that night he realised (by himself) what he had done and was very upset. We told him it was too bad you cant go back on a deal/swap.

He also gave a whole set of Bakuguan (popular collectable toys a few years back, probably worth £20-30) to his friend as he didn't play with them anymore and a few days later changed his mind and wanted them back. Again told him too bad, you cant give away and then ask for something back as it now belongs to the other person.

Tough lessons, but cheap at the price as he now considers the consequences of things a bit more and chooses not to take things he treasures to school.

It wont be a lesson learned if you replace or track down the figures OP. And then in a few weeks it'll happen again with something else or the same figures.

As other posters have said, i told my DDs if they take something to school and it gets lost/ruined/nicked then it's gone forever because i wont be replacing it. They took me at my word and didn't take anything in to school.

Ds is still crying about the robin mini figure he brought into school and had taken. Despite being told to leave it at home and bring another ( he has sensory issues and needs a fidget in his pocket) he took it out of his pocket at ep to watch him. It was gone when he went back. There was only his own class in the hall. Not sure if he's sad over the figure or the meanness of a classmate to take it. Teacher did ask as he was so upset be no one owned up.

I would speak to the teacher . I returned 1p my ds bought home as I couldn't get to the bottom of whose money it was. I told teacher even though it was 1p I did not want him to think it was ok to take someone else's money. I have no idea what happened to the money.

You might not get the lego figures back but she may be able to talk to them about not swapping stuff.

What figures were they? If he is desperate but you can't replace, there are websites which do sort of knock-off figures more cheaply.

My DH is ever so fussy about his Lego (if you give us Mega Bloks he will glare you out of the house, apparently the plastic isn't as good!), but has been known to buy one of these figures for a character that doesn't actually exist in the Lego universe, for example. I'm sure they must be able to do 'real' figures too.