to expect my dc taxi driver not to do this?

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my dc are taken to school in a taxi provided by the LEA. there is a taxi driver and an escort.

the dc have communication books which are used by us and the teacher to exchange information eg - dc was bit silly in class today and did xyz, or xyz are visiting dc next week to carry out xyz assessment etc.....or from us - dc had a difficult evening due to xyz - they may be tired/tearful etc.... or has an appointment with xyz on thursday so will be absent etc.

when i asked for the book today dc said oh escort has already checked it, no letters today.

WHAT???

turns out escort opens their bags and checks the books, and checks for letters - but as dc pointed out - she doesn't open any letters.

AIBU to think that this is out of order? I do not want her knowing every in and out of my dc lives.

and what can i say to her in the morning so i don't look like a complete cow?

they are great in every other respect - but this has made me uncomfortable - we value our privacy and feel it has been violated.

I would just be straight forward and say 'please do not go through dc's bag and papers, there may be confidential information in there'. If she continues or gets difficult, could you request a different escort?

And YANBU, I would t be impressed at the nosiness of her either!!

yanbu
speak to the school
dd had a driver once who would tell me stuff that he shouldn't have known.
I spoke to the school and told them that he was doing this and they made sure he knew nothing.
the escourt should not be reading private stuff

It is absolutely nothing to do with the escort. She should simply be helping them manage their journey. Could you say in a jokey way "you'll never believe what ??? said, course you wouldn't be in their bags..." something along those lines? Straightforward as Bailey says.

I would say "Why are you looking in DC's bags?" and go from there. Obviously there is no reason for them to do this, and they'll know that. Eventually you can tell them that under no circumstances are they to do that again.

Say nothing to her, she is engaged in a role, like with any other complaint or issue you move up the chain you don't handle it yourself. That just leads to arguments, accusations and trouble. Ask to chat to whoever your contact in school is and let them deal with it. There will be a process in place and it will be there for a good reason.

If there are any letters, OP, does the escort hand them to you personally?

Just wondering if she's not actually looking through the book, but just making sure any letters get to you.

She shouldn't be in their bags at all. Speak to the head teacher or the transport company tomorrow if you're not comfortable with confronting the escort yourself.

I really don't get why this is a big deal .

My boys go on a bus to school and there is an escort. They vary, there is one lady who is very friendly and tells us if either has an accident slip, or an important letter. There is one who doesn't.

If you don't like it, ask her to leave the bag alone. You are being hysterical to say you feel your privacy has been violated IMO.

Oh, and just because they may have opened the bag to check for letters, the escorts (at our school anyway) actually have a chat with the teachers when they collect the children.

Today it was obvious DTS2 had lost his coat but the escort told us and said that 'Miss had written a note'. I don't expect she read it, I expect Miss told her. And I'm not bothered because anything confidential and possibly sensitive would be in a sealed envelope.

Our DD's escort tells us if there's a letter too. I always assumed that she was passing on a message from the teacher, in case DD forgot to show us.