to be upset he hasn't mentioned this at all

[3nonblondeboys80]

So dh and my brother have never really hit it off. Thats fine as I know he can be hard work at times. So on Monday my niece calls to say he has been admitted to hospital with a bad chest infection. I mentioned this to dh and he just changed the subject. I though this was off but didn't want to say anything as our boys were in the room.
Since than he hasn't once asked me how he is. However, I always ask after his relatived even ones I don't particularly like.
aibu to think this is off.
Guess it could be that he didn't bother to listen properly or just doesn't give a shit. Not sure which is the preferred one.

No, he should feign interest if he can't feel it.

How often have they met?

How often have you seen your DB recently?

If he genuinely doesn't care about your Db then he's being honest by not asking, however as it's important to you he maybe could have shown a bit more interest.

He doesn't have to care about your db, but he should care that you care.

I don't know or dislike loads of people that people I care about consider important and there's no way I wouldn't ask how they were and how they themselves were coping.

I'd say it's not just your db who is hard work to see as likeable.

Have you previously shown much concern for you DB?

If my SIL was ill I wouldn't give a shit, unless it was something really serious (like dying) and only then if my DH was upset and needed my support.

For a chest infection I wouldn't bother asking at all.

If my DH mentioned it, say BIL was in hospital, I'd ask, keep up with his progress.

Personally I couldn't give a monkey's, but if DH was bothered I would ask.

Just as he asks about my DSis and her current life problems, even though he has never really liked her.

He doesn't care about her, but does care on the effect her troubles are having on me. He is supporting me... and your DH should be doing the same for you!

I think he's being very unreasonable. When I had been with my DP about three months, my brother got rushed into hospital with a bad chest infection late on a Tuesday evening. I was at my DP's when my SIL called to say my brother had a 1/5 chance of making it through the night. My DP, listening to my half of the conversation and grasping the seriousness of my brother's condition, just grabbed a bag, chucked some stuff in for both of us and without any hesitation drove me 200 miles, with us arriving at the hospital just in time to say goodbye at about 1am. He took several days off work with no notice whatsoever to stay with me. He'd met my brother once.

Even of your DH doesn't like your brother, he should be concerned (or at least ACT concerned) for your sake.

Whenever dh says anything about mil i'm just like '...oh cool'

OR if it's bad 'oh...no way'

I see him probabably about 6 times a year. would be more frequently but we live a 3 hour drive away. He should know all my siblings are important to me as my parents have passed away.
My niece has just rung and hopefully he will be home tomorrow.