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AIBU?

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Original poster

in thinking that I wasn't rude?

22 replies

Taystee · 09/10/2014 16:38

Worried now...

I was shopping today in a well known not very nice supermarket. There was a woman standing looking at some stuff and I needed to get past. There was plenty of room in front of her so I walked through the gap and said sorry, to which she responded "bloody hell".
I responded that I'd said sorry and she said I should have walked behind her.

Have I had my supermarket etiquette wrong all along? Please tell me if I was rude here.

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siblingrevelryagain · 09/10/2014 16:41

Doesn't matter whether you were in the right or not-either way she should have accepted your immediate apology. She was the rude one here

Sirzy · 09/10/2014 16:44

Was there no space to walk behind her? If there was then ideally you should have but she was rude not to accept your apology

MillyMollyMama · 09/10/2014 16:45

Just don't go into that type of supermarket again! You know its likely to be full of people you won't like. Go somewhere more classy and you will get better aisle etiquette.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 09/10/2014 16:45

Obviously all the yoghurts she was staring at disappeared the instant you walked in front of her!

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 09/10/2014 16:46

PS. I hope you're not talking about Aldi, I luffs Aldi

MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet · 09/10/2014 16:46

God, it drives me mad in shops when people stand so far back from the shelf of products they are viewing that you end up having to walk in front of them to get by!! I don't think you were U at all!

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Taystee · 09/10/2014 16:47

There were people behind her. Don't worry, I'm not talking about Aldi! I bloody love Aldi. Should have gone there instead...

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cherrybombxo · 09/10/2014 16:48

I don't think you were rude but she definitely was.

Joolsy · 09/10/2014 16:49

Maybe she should learn to stand a bit closer to what she's looking at...that winds me up!

vanillavelvet · 09/10/2014 16:51

Sometimes I stand too far back to survey the items on the shelves. You get a better overall view the further back you stand.

Usually I don't realise I'm doing it.

Sometimes someone walks in front of me because there is no room to get past behind me. Then I feel the need to apologise to them as I'm the one standing in an awkward position.

She was definitely rude OP.

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Taystee · 09/10/2014 16:52

Bit of a drip feed here but I may have been a little rude when she didn't accept my apology... I do let myself get wound up quite easily so said I didn't realise she owned the supermarket and had sole rights to the aisles.

Anyway, in the future should I avoid walking in front of people? I've had people do this to me and when they say "sorry" I simply reply "no problem". Maybe this is just me though...

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ApocalypseThen · 09/10/2014 16:53

Never ceases to amaze me how unaware people are of anybody other than themselves. You shouldn't be blocking the supermarket aisle like an eejit.

bigTillyMint · 09/10/2014 16:54

Ah, was it Waitrose?

She shouldn't have been blocking the aisle, IMHO!

vanillavelvet · 09/10/2014 16:54

whispers but you get a better view that way.

makes mental note to payouts attention in future

krustyem · 09/10/2014 16:55

@millymollymama ii do believe you can get rude, obnoxious twats in all supermarkets

Millipedewithherfeetup · 09/10/2014 16:56

You just probably caught someone on a bad day, dont worry about it, one of those things.

vanillavelvet · 09/10/2014 16:56

pay MORE attention! Blimmin' predictive text.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 09/10/2014 16:59

She wasn't in a wheelchair was she, and then you stood right in front of her looking at the same item, as you would def be unreasonable then

All right, unlikely and it would be a massive drip feed, but someone did this to me today in a shoe shop and it was very annoying. I may well too have been a little rude.

Jill2015 · 09/10/2014 17:05

I know what people mean about people standing way back from whatever they are looking at. It's annoying.
I was in a newsagent one day, standing near a magazines display, but, in such a way that anyone standing beside me could easily see the same mags, and there was plenty of room to pass behind where I was standing.
A woman inserted her body in front of me, as though I was invisible. It was really weird. I said 'excuse me', and that seemed to be the first time that she became aware of me. She did apologise, but it was strange.

YANBU, OP, I would leave her to it though, she sounds rude.

Joolsy · 09/10/2014 17:09

I think in future OP just maybe say "excuse me, I just need to get past". or something similar

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 09/10/2014 18:48

Vanilla sometimes I stand back too, either because I want a good look or I'm looking for a specific item that I'm not too sure where it is.

OP YANBU if it had been me I'd have said no problem because I'm aware that people need to get passed and quite frankly it takes seconds.

theparadoxofourage · 09/10/2014 19:13

Today I took my grandmother shopping in M&S and had a woman in her 60s stood in the middle of the aisle looking some glasses. She was blocking the entire aisle and looked up at me and I could just tell she wasn't going to move to let me squeeze past, even her husband looked at me clearly saying 'I know she's insufferable, I've tried...'', which had been fine... apart from the fact I'd gone round the shop like a sodding maze behind 2 other people trying to get out because other people were to selfish to let anyone else through. So no YANBU. I'm dyspraxic and my spatial awareness is awful but I have the common sense not to block an entire aisle and don't get huffy if people try to get past as long as they apologise.

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