To wish he'd fucking check the details first?

[PinkSquash]

DH wrote a letter to DCs school, stating that DS1 will need to leave at 1330 today for a medical appointment.

The appointment is tomorrow at 1330, for DS1s first CAMHs appt- for fucking anxiety.

He rang the school when he realised his mistake but it didn't get through to DS1, who was ready to go this afternoon and no one turned up.

I have repeatedly said it is on Thursday, it is also on his phone calendar and the wall calendar, he said he forgot what day the appointment was on.

So AIBU to be pissed off he didn't bother to check the details?

I would be furious.
That is just pathetic.
Is he usually incompetent?

Ok, so he made a mistake. So did the school. It happens.

Cut him some slack, unless he has regualr form for being like this.

It sounds horrible, and your poor son! I'd be having very stern words with dh, but if he's anything like my dp he will never truly understand as he's not going to get the brunt of the problems caused by him not bothering to glance at the calendar..

No real suggestions I've just adopted a 'if you want it doing right do it yourself' approach with my dp but I know a lot don't agree with it

Think I think it's because it's a CAMHs appt that makes it worse, DS1 was sat their waiting for ages apparently, plus the inconvenience to the teacher.

I usually do this myself, but I now have to write an another note for tomorrow and I'll take it in to his teacher and apologise.

I am slightly very annoyed as it was laziness. He's got worse in the past few months and no amount of discussing is making it better tbh.

I'm not sure how to word the letter beyond

Dear DS1s teacher,

Due to DS1s fathers incompetence in checking a calendar he got the date wrong. The time was right, so I'll give him some credit, but I can only apologise for the arseache and disruption it has already caused.

Please be assured it will not happen again because he is not allowed nesr the stationary drawer until he is competent.

Sincerely,

PinkSquash

Sound about right?

I think 'arseache' should be two words, but apart from that, perfect! :)

No no no!! HE has to write the letter. HE has to go and apologise to the teacher in person. Not you. If he doesn't get the brunt of the problems he won't learn, so… he should have to do this. Owning a penis doesn't make anyone incapable of reading a calendar :)

Ah, that was my transposing error it would have been 1330 for a 1400 appt.
A teleportation device would be rather useful so DS1 didn't miss as much school, not that he would see it that way

I suppose it goes to show how easily a twatty mistake can be made, but this is only MN,so I can just about get away with it, just.

Thank you

He made a mistake, he can sort it out and bear the consequence but he doesn't need to be crucified for it. I've made some belters in my time and so has DP. Sounds like exactly the sort of mistake one of us would make

Is it really worth getting so stressed about. Sounds like you're anxious never mind your ds. He hasn't missed the appt, no harm done. Let your dh deal with the letter writing. Chill out a bit. (Spoken by someone whose parents totally forgot to pick them up from a school trip!)

Well it's MUCH better than mixing it up for the day after - it hasn't actually affected the appointment.

Radiate calmness. But don't do any of the fixing.