Too feel trapped because I already dumped him once.

[YoniTheOnly]

Made a mistake with ex, left it long enough to forget the bad bits but now really regret getting back together. He's quite attatched to DS (we were together a few years) and was so glad we were back together.

I was but after a few weeks it's hit me like a juggernaut in the face. I feel terrible. He'll be really hurt and mutual friends who were already shocked we were back together will think I'm the wicked bitch of the west

AHHHHHH.

Honestly if you knew how much he cared, and got back with him knowing how hurt he would be if you finished it, I think you are a little bit to blame. You are dangling him on a string and playing with his emotions.

I know someone who dumps then get backs with her long suffering ex like clockwork, she enjoys the drama and her central role in the drama, his declarations of love and pain. It's horrible to watch and to have to be involved in. I wish she would just grow up and be mature.

But anyway, it's your decision. Maybe you could think more carefully about the possible outcomes in future?

sooner rather than later

dont discuss with any one else, other than a breezy "things just didnt work out"

I didn't know I'd feel so different. We had something very good for a while. I hate drama and confrontation. Think you're projecting because of your friend but yes, I'm to blame a bit. Never said I wasn't.

I also did think about it long and hard. I didn't expect to feel so negatively about it. Certainly wouldn't go back to an ex again. Far too risky.

I had a guy dump me twice.

He's now my DH

"I don't know how to explain it to him."

You don't have to. All you need to say is that it's not working for you and you don't want to continue. You really don't need to come up with a long list of very persuasive reasons or excuses. You've decided. That's it. End of relationship. He can cry and moan to mutual friends all he likes but that's not going to change your mind, and nor should it. You're a grown woman and you can make your own choices.

He wouldn't accept that was the end the first time. But I know what you mean. We're both adults etc.

Obviously you need to split up with him as you can't stay with someone because you have a guilty conscience.

Just don't be tempted to get back with him in the future!

I've been dumped by the same person twice, hurt both times. But I got over it. When they tried to rekindle things a third time I politely declined (even though my loins were all aquiver).

Oh lord, who would try it after already getting back together and it not working? That is really cheeky.

I've had an ex get back with me and change his mind and I was just glad we tried at the time. But we're very different people when it comes to handling rejection etc. I'll make it known within the week I think. I can't carry on with it like it is and he knows something's wrong so it's not fair to him either.

I'd know next time that the grass is not greener and that people don't really change much past 25. It would't happen again.