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AIBU?

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To dislike my new job after one day?

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:16

Ok, so I think IABU but I need to get a grip/kick up the arse.

I started a new job yesterday and today was my first full day and I hate it.

No-one was prepared for my arrival(they've known I've been coming for 8 weeks) my credentials aren't available for me to log onto the system, I was left twiddling my thumbs and I just don't know what the hell I was doing! I even got told off for parking in the wormy car park ffs.

When someone did sit with with me, they we're in such a hurry that what they were saying to me didn't make sense. So when I went to clarify something with them they weren't available.

It's way out of my comfort zone and I know I need to relax but I'm absolutely DREADING going back in tomorrow. I know I need to give it a chance, but I just need someone to talk to me.

It'll be ok won't it?

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:17

Hahaaa! Wrong not wormy! Bloody iPhone!

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ShebaQueen · 07/10/2014 21:20

Yes, I'm sure it will be fine. They're obviously disorganised, but don't take it personally. Be friendly and try to relax - did they appoint a "buddy" for you? If not maybe you could ask for one. Make notes when you're being trained and don't be afraid to ask for things to be repeated if you don't understand.

Good luck and don't be too hard on yourself, it's never easy starting a new job.

cherrybombxo · 07/10/2014 21:21

Just calm down, it'll be fine. I've never, ever gone into a job where my IT access has been set up with everything that I needed and the car park thing was a genuine mistake that you won't make again. It's shit that no one was prepared for you but I'd say to the person training you that you'd appreciate a more in-depth chat about what you're doing, and should you ask someone else if they are busy/not available?

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:22

Ok, thanks Sheba ?? it's all rota so I do have a mentor but she wasn't on today!!

Ugh...I'm not going to give up but shit me I felt unwelcome today

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LadyLuck10 · 07/10/2014 21:23

It's sounds like any normal first day. Once everything is set up and you get more settled in, it will be fine. Just hang in there.

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:24

Thanks Cherry, I'm shadowing someone else on an entirely different department tomorrow to see how they do the job I'll be expected to do, so hopefully that will be good :)

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Lampy · 07/10/2014 21:25

First days are terrible more often than not. The feeling of not knowing what you are meant to do and being judged at the same time is horrible!
at wormy car park.

I started a new job last December and hated it immediately, I stuck it out because I needed the money and now I actually like it. It just took time to settle in and get to know everyone's quirks.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 07/10/2014 21:26

Sounds like everyone is rushed off their feet and doesn't have much time to help a newbie find their feet. They're daft really because as soon as you know what you're doing, you'll be that extra pair of hands that they need to relive the pressure!

Maybe for basic admin stuff like asking where such and such is, ask different people so the same person isn't always getting asked. Or find someone quite junior to ask, even apprentice/work experience level - if they've been there a while then they will know the basics. And once you know the basics you'll feel like you fit in more.

Everyone hates starting somewhere new as it never goes totally smoothly. There are always little problems like sitting at someone's regular lunch table because you didn't know, and then you feel awkard about it when you find out. And feeling a fool because someone shows you how to use a piece of equipment but then the next time you try it on your own you can't quite manage it and have to ask them again etc. General office politics.

Keep ploughing on and it will get easier in a couple of weeks.

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:29

Thanks, I feel slightly better.

I was going to drink gin when I got in but I'm pleased I resisted! I casually mentioned to one of the other ladies that I may have a gin when I got in and was met with a cat bum face!

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erin99 · 07/10/2014 21:29

Hang in there, it will get better! Sounds like there will be plenty for you to do once they give you a chance to get into it.

LaurieMarlow · 07/10/2014 21:29

It's only day 1. Chaotic disorganisation and feeling out if your depth is par for the course, no? To be perfectly honest, I hated my current job for about the first 9 months. Now I can't imagine a better place to work, but it took that long for me to settle in.

CurlyWurlyCake · 07/10/2014 21:30

You will be great. I have the pleasure in arranging the admin technical stuff at our place and the company won't allow me to arrange access, laptop, mobiles etc until the day the new starter starts incase they don't show up.

Give them a chance, they could be having a really busy time and be under staffed, they may need you!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 07/10/2014 21:30

I think the best piece of advice I could give is to be really friendly, polite, open and willing to give everything a go. People will understand that you can't be expected to know how to do everything at first and will forgive that, but they won't forget a bad first impression for a long time.

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:31

I know, it's to be expected right?

I think I need to grow some balls and stop taking things so personally

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greenfolder · 07/10/2014 21:32

Sounds like most places! Give it a month before you judge!

SolidGoldBrass · 07/10/2014 21:32

I have been hating my new job, too, but I'm starting to feel a bit better about it. In my case it's something I took on because I need the money and they desperately need the staff, but in many ways it's totally out of my previous industry and a whole different way of doing stuff and I am a bit old for such a radical revamp.

Revenant · 07/10/2014 21:33

I started a new job in August and utterly hated it and was in tears when I came home. No information given to the point where I had to ask where the toilets were, and then had to just go for lunch in desperation at 3 pm because no info had been given about when lunch breaks were taken. I spent half an hour with my manager - haven't really seen him since either- and then he handed me over for training to one of the people I was supposed to manage. It took a few weeks but I am settling in and sorting things out. Essentially the problem is disorganisation, and I suspect that it's much the same where you are - some places are just rubbish at induction / organisation. I'm sure it will be fine for you, and if not, as I keep reminding myself, there are always other jobs if it it's truly terrible...

CurlyhairedAssassin · 07/10/2014 21:36

While I personally would have laughed at the mention of needing a gin, it COULD have been read the wrong way, depending on who you were talking to. Maybe the person you're replacing had a drinking problem, maybe the person you joked with has a drinking problem, maybe they're just really square and think drinking on a school night is bad form, maybe they're worried that you're not very resilient if you're needing a stiff drink after just one day there. Etc etc. I would keep the topic of conversation away from anything at all which may be contentious, or construed as suchby the person you're talking to, just till you've got to know the lay of the land and the different backgrounds and personality quirks of your colleagues.

slightlyglitterstained · 07/10/2014 21:36

I think it's easy for new starters to slip through the gaps in a workplace that's a bit busy, unless someone really busts a gut to make sure stuff is sorted.

It doesn't mean the next few weeks will be like this - it gets better pretty rapidly as soon as you have even one or two people to ask, but fuck me it feels shit in the meantime! Worth remembering when the next new starter comes in so you can say hi, by the end of the week you'll be out of first day funk and it'll fade fast! Tomorrow will be better!

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:40

Revenant - it was totally like that! I had to ask when my break times were and I only found out where to loo was because I went looking for it!

I see what you mean about the gin comment, I think I was getting desperate for some conversation haha!

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Meh84 · 07/10/2014 21:42

By the way, I've taken screen shots of some of these replies so if I'm having a shit day tomorrow I can look at them and they'll gee me up!

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IckleBird · 07/10/2014 21:57

Yanbu I'm two months into a supervisor job and I was close to tears with misery last week, same disorganised,non of the right equipment provided etc and generally I have/had no experience previously with no one training me.
This thread has given me slight hope that I will get used to the job and fwiw my manager is happy with me just doesn't come across.

Good luck

GreenPetal94 · 07/10/2014 23:13

I'm 9 days into my new job and I still haven't been registered on the flexi time system. I do have a computer login though (day 2).

However I do have a "buddy" whos a nice guy but clearly very busy. Another lady who is also quite new has been the most helpful.

Just keep showing up and ask yourself after one month how it is going.

cheeseandpineapple · 07/10/2014 23:20

I hated my first "proper" job on my first day too. I was still living with my parents, I literally threw myself on the floor when I got home and started weeping. They were taken aback and had no idea what to say or do. I was adamant I wasn't going to stay but 6 months later when I was due to rotate into a different department and office, I didn't want to leave as I ended up really liking it.

So hang on in there, give yourself a bit more time and at least the only way is up from now on, it can't really get worse!

slightlyglitterstained · 08/10/2014 08:06

Friend transferred to the States with his company as a young feller in his first job. Super excited, as you would be, though a bit anxious about leaving friends & family. Months of preparation and anticipation.

On his first day of work in the US he emailed. "they didn't seem to be expecting me & didn't know what to do with me ".

Fortunately it got a lot better after that.

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