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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to ask for money owed

15 replies

ninjasuperted · 07/10/2014 16:29

Aibu to ask for money owed to me from my db's partner, even if it has been over a year?

its not a large amount, but it is the principle, and they may need a favor soon. Would you refuse to help untill payment was made?

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FelixTitling · 07/10/2014 16:31

I would ask for it back and not lend any further money to them.

What is the favour? As long as it isn't further cost to you, I don't see why you couldn't help.

ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties · 07/10/2014 16:31

Depends. If it's a tenner I'd forget about it. If it's a hundred pounds or more I'd bring it up.

LeftRightCentre · 07/10/2014 16:33

Ask for it back and no more favours. Don't be a mug.

AMumInScotland · 07/10/2014 16:58

YANBU specially because it has been over a year.

As to the favour it depends - are they generally fair and equal in their behaviour to you, or is this just one of many instances of them expecting 'something for nothing'?

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ninjasuperted · 07/10/2014 17:14

The favour would be a lift some distance so would mean fuel costs, she has form for being a bit of a free loader, could count 4 people who have had the same kind of problems with her, not just money but borrowed items never returned.

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FelixTitling · 07/10/2014 17:19

You could offer the lift, but charge the petrol costs.

I know someone like this too. I never say no, as I think that would be churlish, but I am very careful never to put myself out financially at all. I also only do favours when there is absolutely no inconvenience to myself.

WhereYouLeftIt · 07/10/2014 17:20

Ask for the money back, don't do the favour. Or any favour for her, ever. As long as she gets away with it, she will keep doing this.

AMumInScotland · 07/10/2014 17:27

I don't do favours for people I know are free-loaders. Even if you charge for your costs, you've still had the time and inconvenience.

Penfold007 · 07/10/2014 17:42

Really depends on how much she borrowed £10 -20 then I wouldn't but £100 I most certainly would. Personally I would never lend her any money again.

As for the favour I'd probably say I couldn't help. If I did agree she would have to give me petrol money in advance.

LeftRightCentre · 07/10/2014 17:43

Nope, no favour.

MintyCoolMojito · 07/10/2014 18:24

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Fanfeckintastic · 07/10/2014 18:27

Yeah, less than 50 let it go but more the guts of 100 I wouldn't!

DaddyBeer · 07/10/2014 18:38

If/when she asks for the favour, ask for the money!

WitchWay · 07/10/2014 18:59

Ask for it back & fuel costs in advance.

Does your brother have anything to say about it?

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ninjasuperted · 07/10/2014 19:05

That's the thing. I wouldn't want to fall out with him over it, i have mentioned the money owed a couple of times in the past year, but fell on deaf ears. Not enough to fall out over, just do not like feeling like I've been taken advantage of. Think i will mention it, if she asked for the favor and go from there.

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