Taking other peoples kids to groups

[bpalmf]

I take a neighbours kid and my son to Tae Kwondo group every week. Didn't mind it as all initially as it gave me some time for peace and quiet to read my book. Now the kids are a bit older and aren't friends anymore,. The friends kid actually ignores my son and only speaks when they are in the car going to Tae Kwondo.

I want to stop giving the other kid a lift but feel like i need t once up with an excuse. Any ideas???

I wouldn't make excuses as they usually backfire and make you look like the bad guy.

Just be honest and say that the boys arent friends anymore and you would rather end the arrangement. Tgat is all that needs to be said.

Sounds like the other parent has done rather well out of this so far so you are not in the wrong.

Does it matter if they're not friends? If you're going anyway and the boy is polite in the car why do you need to stop?

How about suggesting to neighbour that one of you drops and the other collects so you don't have stayb?

Do you still enjoy the book time? is it inconveniencing you in any way?

So why stop doing something nice.

I don't see the problem about still giving him a lift unless he's being nasty in some way to your son?

Why can't the boy's own parents take him? Is there a reason? Would he have to stop going if you halted the arrangement?

I would just tell her that as from XXX date that you won't be able to take her son. If she asks why just tell her it's not convenient. If you really, really need an excuse you could just say that you sometimes have to go somewhere before or afterwards.

I'm with vintage, as long as he's not being mean to your son and your son doesn't mind why do you want to stop taking him?

I wouldn't take a child if they ignored mine tbh it's different if they just have different friends inside but flat out ignoring him when there are others around I wouldn't be happy with.

You're going anyway, and it seems silly for two cars to be making the same journey when one can. Either arrange to share with the other parent, or enjoy your time with your book every week.

If he's ok on the journey,I'd just continue. It seems a bit petty to not continue unless there is some info you haven't disclosed.

Agree with others - if you still enjoy sitting and reading your book, then I can't see why you need to stop taking him just because the 2 boys aren't best buddies - this is about parents helping each other out. You say the boy is polite when he's with you.
If, however, you'd rather be doing something else with your time, then just say that after x dte, you won't be able to take and fetch him any more - you don't need to give a reason, but you will look a bit odd if you still then sit there and take and fetch your own dc.
If you'd now rather drop and run, now they are older, then ask them to do the other trip.