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Original poster

To think that brother should email from his own account rather than sister in laws??

27 replies

Merriboo · 06/10/2014 15:59

For some reason, my brother sends emails from his wife's home email rather than using his own.
AIBU to think he shouldn't?
I find it odd, and annoying as it give the impression that it's from her, and that she has to be involved, regardless of the subject.
I don't know whether it's sheer lazyness (can't be bothered to log out/in) or what

OP posts:
Thurlow · 06/10/2014 16:05

I'm trying to think of a reason to be bothered by this... and I do enjoy getting disproportionately annoyed by minor things in life, but... no. YABU.

WooWooOwl · 06/10/2014 16:08

Yes, YABU.

I really can't see what difference it makes to you unless you want to say things that you don't want your SIL to read.

Sparkletastic · 06/10/2014 16:11

That would nark me too. Married couples with a shared email address give me the absolute rage too. Except for my parents because it's a miracle they even managed to create an account.

Mrsjayy · 06/10/2014 16:18

I can't see why it upsets you text him instead if you think she is snooping or tell him you will only reply to his email address in future, we have 2 email addresses yes 1 is a couples 1

BackforGood · 06/10/2014 16:23

YABU I'm afraid.
Personally I like having my own e-mail - easier to find things if we keep our own accounts - but if he rarely e-mails from home (from your OP I'm inferring he uses a work e-mail address a lot of the time?) then he might as well use the same one as his wife if they are both happy with that.

Original poster
Merriboo · 06/10/2014 16:28

Thanks everyone. It isn't a "couples" email as such-it has her name. They both have individual emails but for some reason he seems to always use hers from home. I realise it's a really minor thing, but it has bugged me recently.

OP posts:
WhatAHooHa · 06/10/2014 16:30

We have separate accounts on our shared tablet, but for some reason it always defaults to show as coming from DH's email. I don't always notice until its sent. I can't really see why its a problem tbh.

FlossyMoo · 06/10/2014 16:33

DH e-mails from my account because I always have it open and he is too lazy to log in to his own

YABU I can't see what the issue is sorry.

AMumInScotland · 06/10/2014 16:34

DH and I have our own email accounts, but they both arrive in the same Inbox on our PC. If I go to send an email, or even reply to one, the default is his email account, not mine, as he was the one who set it up in the first place. I have to pick mine off the drop-down to change what it says.

Any chance theirs is set up in a similar way, and he just doesn't bother to change it?

Floralnomad · 06/10/2014 16:38

All the emails sent from here come from one of my two email accounts because we never turn the computer on and only my emails are set up on the iPad - I fail to see what the issue is .

UsuallyLurking1 · 06/10/2014 16:40

Probably just using an iPad or phone and he can't be bothered to change settings?

I do this quite often. Makes life easier as well if planning stuff

PrivateJourney · 06/10/2014 16:41

Nope, I really can't imagine being bothered by this at all. If anything it's good means they have no secrets etc and your brother's probably in a secure marriage. I can't see any reason why its a bad thing

googoodolly · 06/10/2014 17:12

Really, why does it matter?! He's probably just using her laptop or phone and it's her account that's signed in, and he doesn't see the point in switching over.

TotallyOuted · 06/10/2014 17:20

YABU

Andrewofgg · 06/10/2014 17:39

YABU. It's like having shared printed letterhead.

Andcake · 06/10/2014 17:45

My dp does this from my account and it's annoying but it's mostly because I have to nag him to respond to emails from his family.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/10/2014 18:28

My parents do this. Dad emails fronm Mum and vice versa. It makes Christmas and birthdays REALLY irritating.

Laquitar · 06/10/2014 18:38

I get you OP.

When i engage with someone i like this someone to be one person not the half of the couple. It is different if you talk about something to both of them as a couple. .
I can not explain it but i agree with you.
(I wasnt much help was i? Lol )

magpiegin · 06/10/2014 18:39

YABU. Can't see why you care.

blanklook · 06/10/2014 19:29

A friend of mine always emails from his wife's email address. I asked him why and he said she is logged in with her details all the time on their pc so he just finds it easier to do it that way.

Apparently if he logs into his own email a/c then forgets to log back into hers so the status quo on the pc is maintained, she's not best pleased so he's happy to use hers all the time.

It works for them.

deakymom · 06/10/2014 21:07

do they dress the same too?

yanbu

MrSheen · 06/10/2014 21:10

Friend quite often texts me from her DHs phone. We'll exchange a dozen or so messages then she'll suddenly say 'it's me btw'.

messalina · 06/10/2014 23:32

You have time to worry about this?!

PhaedraIsMyName · 07/10/2014 00:09

I get where you're coming from. I think it's a bit odd. I'm never sure whom I'm replying to for people who do this. Oddly I see it a lot with clients. Not business clients but private individuals.

I particularly don't understand it when so many emails are sent from phones anyway.

Husband has one live.com account which is only on his laptop. I have 2 Gmail accounts and a plethora of mostly redundant other accounts (anyone else still got a freeserve account? ) all of which are on my phone. None of them work on my laptop any more as they've all had password changes which I have never updated on the laptop.

Momagain1 · 07/10/2014 03:32

I know a number of couples who use one account, set up in the name of whoever managed to originally set it up. It is minorly eirritating because I will wonder why X is emailng when i have never corresponded via email, then I recall it is really their partner. Minor issue for me, becuase I am easily confused.