To quit my new Job because the hours are making me ill

[Charliefarlie1192]

I am Bi Polar. Last year I was hospitalised for 6 weeks with psychosis and an extreme Bi Polar episode. I had quite some time off ad then this year started a new job in June. It is a sales position with an ok basic and the potential for good commission. No real prospects, and its not a career - its a job in a call centre. Anyway, with travel my day is 11 hours. My son is asleep when I leave and my stepmum (who I live with) takes ds to school and picks him up. I get home at 6.45 and bedtime for him it 8-8.30pm. I share weekends with his dad also. I feel like I never see him and don't even know whats going on at school etc.

That is my first reason for wanting to leave. The second it the pressure and the up and down nature of the Job. I feel it is making me feel very much Bi Polar (I know that sounds strange, but I have felt well for so long)

AIBU to be looking at jobs in a supermarket/waitressing/anything low pressure with no potential for earning commission?

I also have a very bad attitude towards money anyway and due to a history of substance abuse when in a Bi Polar episode, I feel I am dangerous to myself with too much money iykwim......

YANBU.

I recently left a job that had me in the office all hours, very stressful and it started affecting home life too.

I developed anxiety and depression. I thought I could slog through it, suck it up, be a big girl and get on with it. I made myself so much worse.

I had to realise that being brave in this case meant jacking it in, not continuing until there was nothing left of me. Nothing wrong with a job that pays the bills with low pressure, if it's what works for you be proud of it.

Good luck, Charlie.

Quality of life is the most important thing, not money. If you can earn enough to live and have a better quality of life, I'd say do it. Plus, it sounds like your health is at serious risk here, so IMO its a no-brainer. Do it!

YA absolutely NBU. It doesn't sound right for you at all.

I've just jacked my well-paid job in for a part-time job in order to see more of my DD and I don't have your problems. Definitely give yourself a break and go for something steadier.

I am worried about what people are going to think. I know my parents will be disappointed.

YANBU. Those kind of jobs have a very high rate of burnout even amongst people who are well. It's really not worth risking a relapse when you could move to something less pressurised. And don't worry about what other people think, they aren't the ones who have to do the job. Plus, I would think your parents will be most concerned with your health, not what kind of job you do.

YANBU I putting your health first. Good for you for recognising that it's not the right fit for you, try not to worry about what others think, you're more important.

Of course not. You are being responsible being aware of the triggers

I think if you explained the health side of things to your parents they'd understand. Plus, you aren't seeing your DS at all - that's not good for either of you. I'm sure he misses you as much as you miss him.

Ive worked in sales and its stressful enough without actually having bi-polar on top. You must be feeling some pressure.

I think there is a lot to be said for an every day job where you do your tasks and once you have logged out, you dont bring the job home with you or worry about targets or if you made enough commission ot pay a bill etc.

Some of my happiest jobs were in supermarkets, office work (admin type roles) and various task based jobs that meant you had a clear head.

I agree TakeMeUp! I've worked in sales and marketing too, it is incredibly stressful. I could never go back to it.

Start looking for other jobs nearer to where you live. We are not all suited to the same working patterns in jobs of the same nature. If it doesnt suit it doesnt siut.

Being bi polar is bloody hard. I also live with bi polar. To stop it spiralling there are things I do:

1. enough sleep
2. ensure balance
3. good diet
4. exercise

Anything that interferes with any of the above has to go.