DH keeps weeing in our bed!

[WhosBeenWeeingInMyBed]

Name changed and on here for a bit of traffic because I don't know what to do!

Ever since childhood, DH has suffered with night terrors and things like sleep talking and walking. Recently, we woke up to a wet patch on the bed, alerting me to it. It was far too big to be the cat and smelled of human wee. The trajectory and the dryness of my DH's pants showed that he'd got out of bed, got his penis out and peed on the bed (his side) then got back in! Our bed has a mattress topper that is essentially a block of foam, so it was difficult to get all the wee out, but we did to the best of our ability, put cleaning products over the top, got a new duvet and thought it was a one off.

Weeks later, and it's happened again. DH is mortified and really upset, even though it's not his fault (had not been drinking, and was asleep), and we've cleaned again, and washed all the bedclothes, but I can still smell wee. I think it's the duvet. Does anyone have any experiences of getting urine out of memory foam or duvets? And does anyone know how we can stop this happening again? Poor DH is really upset!

Thanks whosbeenweeing! Hope you manage to get to the bottom of this and that your dh agrees to see his gp

I've been a medical student (a long time ago!). Your DH will learn that we really do compartmentalise patients so the GP, even if he/she has met your DH before, it will all be very routine.

The other thing to remember is that DH will, of course, know that this is not normal but, if he is anything like every other medical student and given that he suffers from anxiety, he'll have diagnosed himself already with the worst case scenarios. He needs to see a GP for them to work out what is going on. It will be NOTHING that they haven't seen before.

RiffyWammal HA how weird we said the same thing! Biological washing powder works well on human wee? I'll definitely have to give it a go.

Probably should also reassert this- DH had NOT been drinking. And before anyone suggests secret drinking, no. We are a very close couple with a strong relationship who spend nearly all of our time together in a tiny flat. DH did not drink any alcohol yesterday. Unless you want to accuse my DH of storing vodka in the iron or putting whiskey in his tea!

I've read this thread before, I'm sure

Partner weeing inappropriately, check..

Partner a Dr, or training to be one, check.

I knew when I read the o/p the Dr thing would pop up down thread....

Either there's a lot of medics have this particular issue, or.....

Ditto for weed smoking, secret prescriptions, etc.

AnyoneForTurps This is the thing that concerns me too- DH is not so much wetting himself as getting up, getting his bits out, and aiming for the bed (always DH's side, not mine), then climbing back in and going to sleep. I don't know if perhaps a neurological condition might not so much be causing seizures that is making DH void his bladder so much as causing acute sleep disturbances and weird behaviours?

micah I've not made a previous thread. I've actually only been on mumsnet a few months. I know what thread you mean though (searched for similar problems before making this one), and the partner was fully conscious when he was doing it and was afraid of pee gremlins. I assure you DH is not scared of gremlins, and a shared profession is a coincidence.

I imagine training to be a doctor is very stressful, which might explain his nocturnal disturbances re-emerging and also the coincidence with the other thread.

This NHS hospital suggests it could be treated with epilepsy drugs.

www.papworthrssc.nhs.uk/sleep-services-symptoms-odd_behaviour.php

As with all things neuro, there are many grey areas.

I also suffer from night terrors, and while I don't wet the bed, I know it's a common side effect.

Talking cures are apparently very successful, as it tends to be underlying anger or stress issues causing it.

I think there are also pharmaceutical treatments, but mine isn't bad enough to warrant it so I've never investigated fully. Get him to see his GP. Really feel for you and your DH though. I'm sure it is easily cured though.