My younger brother has just turned 30, and having broken up with his GF that he'd been living with, he's moved back in with our folks because he couldn't afford to keep their rental flat on his own.
My parents are retired and are comfortably off, with a lot of savings but not a great deal of income because they're not getting state pension yet, just a little private pension and some money from work my Dad does, I reckon around £10k pa. So they're eating into savings for day to day living.
My brother has not offered to pay rent, and they haven't asked. He has a big double bedroom, run of the house of course, Sky, internet etc. Plus his laundry done, and any meals he wants to eat with my folks (if he's in).
He moved in back in 6 months ago and originally he was going to be getting a place with a mate, but now he's decided to stay put and drop a day at work so he can take a college course which he's just enrolled on and paid upfront for. So he'll be there another year at least.
Now I don't know exactly what he earns, but now he's gone to 4 days I think it's at least £14k. That's about £1000 a month in his account. Now other than a mobile phone contract he has literally no other outgoings, so surely it would be fair for him to pay some rent to my folks?
TBH I wouldn't mind so much, but he's so ungrateful about it! He grumps about the place, his room is a pigsty, he bitches when they ask him to wash up after meals, and he often gripes about the food. If I was in his situation I'd be helping out all I could and thanking my lucky stars every day!! He's always been a bit difficult, and my mum & dad just seem to let him get away with it...
I know that it's not really any of my business how they choose to interact, and my parents should look out for themselves, but it riles me.
Should I say something to them? To him? Or just butt out?!
(Sorry it's long, didn't want to drip feed!)