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To feel a bit teary and pathetic over some shitty water?

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MyFirstName · 05/10/2014 21:11

Just a shitty (literally day) and feeling sorry for myself.

Dh away this weekend for his yearly boys weekend. I try to make it a special weekend for us too - and Friday, Saturday we had DD (9yo), DD (6yo) and I had a brilliant time.

Today has just been crap though - a serious of shitty things and I feel the need to winge. So am going to vent and winge on here. So here goes:

  1. I had to take DS (6yo) to his rugby tournament thingy - 2 hours of hanging around. Was quite nice - some lovely other parents to talk to, watching little boys and girls run around. But OMG DD kept either cuddling me and being all clingy or complaining she was bored. She was warned to bring something to do/read. She had the picnic rug, a snack and drink. I lost it (quietly and subtly, not in front of everyone else) and pointed out that for 5 years DS (and I) had sat in the foyer of the village hall whilst she did her ballet lessons. Every week. For four years. And that this was actually pretty much the first time she had ever had to hang around whilst DS did something and that she should shut up. I think I may have been a bit OTT.

  2. We have decided to get DD an aquarium. And that this weekend we would do some research into it. She did her homework and we chatted with a chap at PetsRUs - or whatever it is called. DD has been great and understands it is not all going to happen immediately. I am cool with her having them but am being a bit shallow in that I do not want some monstrosity looming in my relatively recently renovated house. So this has meant quite a bit of research for me to find a tank/stand that is a) big enough not to be cruel to the fish b) not F-ugly and c) narrow enough to fit into the space I am willing to relinquish to it. I found one. But am going to have to travel about 45 miles to get it. Which I will do. But is is all taking time and I am feeling quite time-poor at the moment and will be for the next few weeks.

  3. I really wanted to sit and chill for a bit, but we are about to embark on some building work and have a new shed being delivered tomorrow. There is a concrete base in the garden which had loads of old wood and rubbish piled up on it. I spent a couple of hours with the wheelbarrow, a shovel and brush and did it. But it has made me tired. And a bit achy. [grumpy emoticon] Though I did do it.

  4. And then, stupidly the worse bit! I decided that as I was a bit mucky and in need of a shower anyway I would have a quick look under the manhole cover to see if I could see why the shower was draining a bit slowly. Oh I wish I had not. Blocked. It is a recurrent problem - usually fixed with a bit of drain rodding (grim but OK if you can jump straight in the shower afterwards). I spent ages on it. Am not thinking about the various bits of splashback as I rammed the drain roddy thing in and out. . 45 minutes of dealing with shitty water and nothing was moving any faster than before.
    (Have left a message with Dynarod - first time in 3 years we have not been able to sort ourselves - but really could not get stuff moving).

So, there. That was my pants, slightly shouty, shitty day. I feel shit for telling DD off. I feel shit for having had to spend my time researching something I don't want. I feel shit because I ache from sorting the shed base. And I got covered in shit. I feel better just dumping it on here. Though do keep slipping into feeling a bit teary and upset for some reason. Am not sure why. (I also can slip into periods of anxiety and can feel the symptoms welling a bit so not sure if that is it.). I kind of want the world to stop a bit. Stop throwing shit at me. Though I know actually it was only just a little bit of shitty water - which I can wash off.

If you have made it this far, well done. So, do I need a grip or AI actually quite reasonable for feel a bit shitty?

OP posts:
KillmeNow · 05/10/2014 21:19

I didn't want to make it more shitty by passing by without leaving a reply.

You are entitled to be feeling shitty after the day youve had. Even without the shitty water .

KillmeNow · 05/10/2014 21:19

I didn't want to make it more shitty by passing by without leaving a reply.

You are entitled to be feeling shitty after the day youve had. Even without the shitty water .

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/10/2014 21:25
  1. You did a great job teaching DD about empathy.
  1. You did a great job caring for your family.
  1. You got loads of exercise and got the job done.
  1. OK, I can normally find a bright side in pretty much anything but you are allowed to be grumpy, hacked-off and pissy about getting covered in shite and not being able to fix it. You poor bugger.

[flower]

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/10/2014 21:25

Flowers FFS

Balaboosta · 05/10/2014 21:28

It's okay. Permission granted to feel shitty!

ElephantsNeverForgive · 05/10/2014 21:36

DD is 6, six year olds think the world revolves around them, DD even had a Tinkerbell t shirt that said as much. They need regular empathy lessons, occasionally telling to shut up and plenty of time in their rooms 'until the can be nice'

My, DMIL would have sympathised with you over the drain rods. Right up to her death aged 77 she would periodically stomp out into her back yard an wield a set of drain rods at the kitchen drain, muttering at the idiot who had built it wrong.

May tomorrow be free from shitty water and full of six year old hugs.

Dragonfly71 · 05/10/2014 21:38

YANBU! You've put everyone's needs before your own, and managed incredibly well. So I guess actually YABU as you should be really proud of yourself for taking all the shit! Hope you have a lovely evening, maybe doing some more online research on a weekend away for yourself?!

Aherdofmims · 05/10/2014 21:40

So sorry to read this and find the water was literally shitty!

Lots of sympathy.

Penfold007 · 05/10/2014 21:43

You've had a shitty day so please accept my virtual hug and large glass of wine. DD needed the empathy lesson. You've done a great job x

MyFirstName · 05/10/2014 21:55

Thank you .

Though of course your sympathy, wine and virtual hugs have made me even teary-er [weak grin]. Though very appreciated Wine.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 05/10/2014 21:56

You're doing great. Complain away and have some wine.

Justwhateverreally · 05/10/2014 22:05

OP, I like the cut of your big girl pants. You wear them well. And you are absolutely ok to have a moan about having to wear them. Well done you. Hope you have some fantastic you-time planned soon.

Discopanda · 05/10/2014 22:15

Have some wine!

MyFirstName · 05/10/2014 22:22

OK. So. Rethinking this, with your help. And pulling on some stuff from my counselling. Deep breath and turning my mindset around (amazing what a bit of empathy can do).

  1. You are right. I taught DD some empathy. It focussed her though. And make her concentrate on another thing DH and I had decided to use to try and get her and (mostly/more) DS to stop interrupting. She may have been a bit bored and whingey - but she got the stopping interrupting thing perfectly. It worked a dream!

  2. DD deserves the aquarium. She loves marine/water life sooo much (want to be a marine vet/biologist when she grows up.) She has worked really hard showing responsibility towards looking after our dog. I cannot really begrudge her the tank.

  3. The base is ready for the shed. The shed will take our crap from the garage. The garage will be concerted, starting in 3 weeks. We will have a spare room and study...whooopwhooooop...it is finally happening. This is a good thing. Maybe some work along the way. But it is good.

  4. I may not have cleared the drains, but I gave it a good shot (no waiting for DH to do it). And maybe they need a good poke from a professional. Hopefully it wil solve the recurrent problem too.

  5. Although I do not recommend putting yourself in this position voluntarily, there is something amazingly cleansing about a shower after you have been messing around with shitty water.

Flowers
OP posts:
foslady · 05/10/2014 22:34

Is it a shared drain? Ring the people you pay your sewerage to and check it's not their responsibility - they took them over a few years ago

www.stwater.co.uk/households/waste-water-and-sewers/responsibility-for-sewer-pipes/

Our sewer is shared by me and the neighbour either side, so any blockages they clear free of charge!

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/10/2014 01:04

Sounds like the bath I had after weeks in East Africa. The water was, umm, essentially mud.

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