To want a single room?

[CaisterSoulGirl]

The Caister Soul Weekender is a music event in Great Yarmouth that runs over a weekend twice a year. You can either stay onsite in groups in one of the caravans or go offsite.

Once again I have just experienced onsite in a couple of vans with a group of friends, and can't stand the constant noise, lack of space and privacy and the uncomfortable beds.

I have told my friends I will be staying offsite next time, which they were very pissed about because you need a certain number to stay in a caravan. If they can't find another person to replace me some others in the group are reluctantly having to stay offsite as well.

I've already booked a single room and have now told I am being selfish because I won't share a room. They are saying this makes it more expensive for everyone else because it means someone else has to have a single room as well. It's a numbers thing.

Guesthouses aren't that expensive so we are not talking about a lot of money. Surely I'm not being unreasonable to want some sleep and privacy?

YANBU - I got to that point years ago - a lot of my friends did. We were going back to college for a reunion night, previously we'd slept on floors etc etc. A couple of years down the line and we'd all (individually) decided to book the local hotel. Do whatever you're comfortable with, and let the others keep their caravan booking and pay for your empty space between them.

Although doing it your way costs £185 in total, doing it their way costs £150 - I'd absolutely pay £35 extra to get an indoor single room offsite (or just not go if £35 was that make or break to me). Can't believe they're not all jumping on the bandwagon!

Oh gosh I'm in my early thirties and bugger that. I want a comfy room. I'm certainly not sharing with anyone apart from family.

Are they proper friends outside of this event? Because it seems a bit churlish (and teenagerish) to get so arsey about a room.

Fourwalls closing - yes you are correct. The £150 does include admission and that is exactly what I have suggested. I take the ticket and they make up the shortfall for the missing person on the van. A lot of people do this if someone drops out of the party.

All this over £23? They are having a laugh aren't they?

YANBU. The only person I don't mind sharing a room with when I go away is my sister. Otherwise, I want my own room. I'm not twenty anymore and happy to bunk down wherever.

Well it would seem that you don't really fit in with the group....they want an entirely different experience to you. How good a group of friends are they? Very good? Or just people you have this in common with?

Hmm, but it does sound like you told them to go ahead and pay the deposit on next year then changed your mind about the arrangements?

However as you kindly give them a lift there, they're bound to come crawling back as you predict.

Did you agree to stay on site, deposit paid accordingly, and then changed your mind? If so, I can entirely see why they are pissedoff and I think you should pay your share.

However if the plan all along was for you to stay off site and you werent part of the agreement over the deposit, theb YANBU.

The van was booked a while ago - the whole deposit was paid by the group leader who books from year to year. I mentioned after last May's event that September would be the last time I stayed onsite, and he still went ahead and booked for next year. I also reminded him of that while we were there last week, but he obviously didn't take it on board. Things kicked off last week when he asked us all for our share of the deposit.

As staying offsite is also cheaper booked in groups I'd gone to another group leader I know, her group members like to stay offsite and asked to join them. I already given her the £40 deposit for my £80 ticket for the event itself, so I can't back out of that now.

To be honest I can't understand why people in their 40s and 50s would want to experience the accommodation onsite but that's just me getting old.