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Parking/ charity being uncharitable.

30 replies

Superchop · 04/10/2014 15:03

Background:
We live off of a main road it's a sharp turn off which can be difficult to access due to cars not letting us turn in and pedestrians not seeing as they cross. Sometimes you have to speedily pull in. The alley leads into a very small courtyard for parking. Realistically you can get 3 cars on one side in but it is marked up for four (opening doors is impossible). Large vans cannot turn around and it's tricky for larger cars. There is a solitary space on the other side. It's private parking and apparently operated by a parking company who give out permits.

Since moving in we have had issues with shops using the entrance of the alley to unload there vehicles including city link supplying to the local businesses etc. (despite there being a loading bay 100m away) This completely blocks the alley when we try and turn in with our car. We have to circle the area (getting stuck in traffic) or we hold up the main road. Even if we are parked in our space we cannot get out with our buggy because the alley is too narrow.

We have warned everyone both politely and firmly explaining it is private property and inconvenient for us, the people with a permit and pay there council tax live in this area.

The worst culprit is a local 'charity'/political party who I would love to name and shame but it will out me. They constantly block the alley to unload to the food bank/charity shop. When I asked her to move she told me to stop having a mental breakdown and I could give her a quick toot and she would move. (As the back ground states this isn't possible) and the shop is 3 doors down. Why should I be inconvenienced. I was then being guilted into letting her park for 5mins in the courtyard while they unloaded. Me being stupidly charitable. since then she has parked in the middle blocking us in for over 15 mins. She has adopted her own space and parks there all day. She uses our wheely bins (all 6 flats) and fills them up with those grocery boxes. So they overfill and we cannot throw our rubbish. She even left rotting bananas in a laundry bag infront of our bins.

We dumped her boxes infront of their shop. Got an apology a couple of days later saying it was somebody new doing it and thought they were their bins (bullshit). It stopped for a little while but there were more today.

She even got her car serviced in the space the other day.

She makes me so angry I don't know what to do. I am being unreasonable to be so angry about it and need to relax but she is taking liberties. Rrrrrrr. Advice suggestions really appreciated.

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honeysucklejasmine · 04/10/2014 15:06

Warn her first that you're going to, but call whoever is supposed to enforce the parking?

Superchop · 04/10/2014 15:07

It's an 0845 number which keep you on hold for ages. The parking company haven't responded to my emails either

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ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 04/10/2014 15:12

Next time she does it, block her in.

Do the charity have a head office? Can you write to them or tweet them? I'd keep complaining every single time she does it.

OddBoots · 04/10/2014 15:12

It sounds like the lane is private so the parking is a civil matter unless you are blocked in when you would be entitled to call the police unless they moved as soon as you asked them. The bins and litter is classed as antisocial behaviour and someone at your local council should be able to advise you and take action about it.

OddBoots · 04/10/2014 15:13

Do you know any of your neighbours? Maybe you could work together to get it sorted as it is bound to be causing them problems too.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 15:15

I was wondering if there would be the possibility of reporting her for fly tipping. No head office just the 'charity shop' but I could write to them. I've got her license plate. I just feel that they will keep ignoring me.

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Superchop · 04/10/2014 15:17

My other neighbours speak very little English. The others who own the offices that share the spaces hope I will sort it out and I think they keep their heads down as they allow visitors to use spaces that they aren't authorised to aswell

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Castlemilk · 04/10/2014 15:23

Block her in.

Tweet/report to the charity.

Tell the charity that unless it stops, you will contact the local paper, and supply pictures of their antisocial behaviour - fly tipping, illegal parking, and blocking access for residents. Plus a photo of you doing a top-quality sadface and a suggested heading : 'X charity - Not So Charitable to Local Residents'.

Dolallytats · 04/10/2014 15:23

You can report her to the council for fly-tipping. We have this problem with our communal bins. People who don't live in our flats think that because our bins are large and there are several of them, that they can use them. However, they serve 36 flats and are full to the brim most weeks without others putting their stuff in.

We have a huge problem with builders renovating properties who save money on skips by filling up the bins-two or three bins filled with their rubbish. It drives me loopy.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 15:25

I want to chuck 'donations' at her car

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blanklook · 04/10/2014 17:04

Covertly video and photograph and log every instance, including every time you've spoken and list what was said.

When I asked her to move she told me to stop having a mental breakdown

She's on very thin ice for using those words, definitely log that.

Once you have enough evidence, go to the local paper, your MP of a different party and her superiors.

Patrickstarisabadbellend · 04/10/2014 17:08

She sounds like a right cheeky mare.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 17:10

I really really regret not taking photos at its peek. She was so rude the day she spoke to me like that. When I asked her if it was her car blocking the alley she looked really offended and put out and told me she was on the phone. As if I was being really unreasonable to politely move her car so I could have access to my property. I think contacting the mp might be a good idea. I think the parties have a lot of conflict.

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SaucyJack · 04/10/2014 17:14

Can you get together with your neighbours and agree for one of you to block her in over the weekend? That's if it's practicably possible due to layout obv.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 17:16

I have a horrible feeling she would damage our car. I don't know where I would legally stand either ?

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ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 04/10/2014 17:21

By any chance is this a very right wing political group/charity?

Pipbin · 04/10/2014 17:27

Who owns the land?

Could you get a temporary bollard to put up like MrsDavidCaruso did on the Penguin Bollard thread?

Superchop · 04/10/2014 17:36

The land I presume is owned by the owner of the buildings (both offices and flats) however our landlord bought our flat and a parking space within the courtyard.

Funnily enough the political party is meant to be left wing. They are crafty and have their own agenda.

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amicissimma · 04/10/2014 17:39

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 17:41

Also, the irony is the boxes are labeled 'we care' as are the paper labels that are scattered across the car park

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Pipbin · 04/10/2014 18:03

Can you put up a sign saying that it is private land and resident only parking?

Pipbin · 04/10/2014 18:07

These are the bollards. Can you put one up in the space she has adopted? You will need to fix it to the ground though.

Or just paint 'stop parking here bitch' on the ground, that should do it.

Pipbin · 04/10/2014 18:07

www.esedirect.co.uk/p-3540-sealey-no-parking-folding-barrier.aspx

Sorry, here are the bollards.

Superchop · 04/10/2014 18:13

They look good I'm not sure where I would stand putting it in our spaces also angers me that I would have to pay out because she is a selfish bitch. I've decided to write a strongly worded letter to the shop. There are posters up curtesy of the useless parking company. But I may say '-charity shop- do not park here'

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