To feel upset at lack of help when I'm unwell?

[Bluetone]

I've felt quite unwell for 3 weeks now. Sore throat, aching muscles, so bloody tired I'm napping during the day on my days off. Eventually went to doctors this week and doctor suspected Glandular Fever so took some blood. Confirmed today it is GF.

I feel wiped out but despite having a husband I'm still doing everything around the house. I work FT and have still been going in even though I feel terrible. DH works FT also.

I came to leu down in bed for 30 minutes but I'm lying here knowing there is a pile of dishes in the sink and laundry to do. DH is currently sprawled on the sofa watching The Simpsons.

I mean should I really need to ask for a bit of help here? Have 4 dc's also. 3 eldest are at friends and youngest is making me pretend cups of tea. He's generally a good husband btw but surely I shouldn't need to ask for help or a real bloody cup of tea that I can't even swallow as it hurts so much

Yadnbu poor you and your husband needs a kick up the arse.

you should be careful. overdo it now and suffer at your leisure with chronic fatigue/post viral syndrome later. take time off. go to bed
refuse to do things

No of course he should hell you, I think you need to tell him to get off his arse, and tell him you intend to stay in bed for the whole weekend so he needs to think about activities for the kids.

Seriously don't move. Leave the dishes, he will be making dinner tomorrow let him scrabble about for clean plates

You really need to rest. Glandular fever can linger if its not respected.

Should you even be at work?

Vote with your feet and stay in bed. Does your DH realise how awful you feel? sometimes I actually need to spell it out to my DH

Look after yourself x

Just bloody tell him what needs doing. My DH once said to me that he'd do anything, but being a bloke his anything wasn't anywhere near mine.

Well he's dragged his arse to Tesco as no milk left. Tried to text him to pick up some ibuprofen but he's left his phone here.

Will be telling him when he returns that I'm doing nothing all weekend.
Thanks.

Roonerspism, I had no idea it was GF until today so just being going to work thinking it was a really bad cold.

You have gf. Do some research then sit down with your oh and discuss it properly. This isn't a sore throat and a bit off it for a few days. The repercussions of chronic fatigue syndrome are huge. Just gf alone can be a serious illness. You really need to get systems in place and have oh understand why it's important. Cfs after gf is a big deal, you can't get a couple of early nights then power through this.

And since you both work f/t perhaps discuss a more equal division of tasks once you're recovered?
I hope you feel better soon.

if you google 'glandular fever cfs me' you will see the importance of rest now. i dont mean to frighten - rest now can help avoid this

Thank you.

I'm going to read up on CFS just now. The tiredness just now is terrible. I couldn't handle this long term.

DH is back from Tesco with Ben and Jerry's. Slightly redeemed himself. Can hear him doing the dishes so I've calmed down a bit. Just feeling sorry for myself and the floodgates opened earlier. GF is horrible :(

It is horrible and not to be underestimated. I was in bed for nearly a month, I distinctly remember my sister and boyfriend keeping me company but I had to stay lying down the whole time as too ill to sit up.

Definitely rest up as much as possible, don't try to push yourself or power through. I've had CFS and it is very debilitating. Your DH needs to understand you need support.

Perfectly lovely husbands can be stupid, thoughtless and insensitive because they are men. My husband really needs everything spelt out to him. I hope you feel better soon and take it easy. x