to think that if you are a couple who both work long hours every day, you should have parcels delivered to your work address rather than home and rely on neighbours constantly taking in parcels!

[Mintyy]

Well?

We had a neighbour (recently moved out, thank god, he used to play music stupidly loudly until midnight most nights when DS was in bed) and we got parcels for him every. single. DAY. For about 2 months.

I didn't mind when it was during the day as I was on mat leave, but the deliverymen started knocking at 7am in the morning, or 10pm at night - ridiculous! We get pestered enough in our road by charity collectors, jehovas witnesses and pawnbrokers stuffing leaflets in the letterbox then coming back the day after to ask if you've got any shit to sell, so my patience is probably shot to pieces...but YANBU at all

I would take parcels in for neighbours 2 doors away. They never came to collect them, even when a card was left. One parcel was in a massive box from Boots and was stuck in my hall for days as every time I knocked they didn't answer.
This went on for a while, me or DH always chasing them to get their goods and in the end I knocked several times and left the parcel on their front door step. I refused parcels from then even when the driver was insistent!

So I can se were OP is coming from, obviously I am all for helping out (and still do with other neighbours) but when they know they are not in and still order knowing someone will get it just isn't fair!

I always know when I am due a parcel. Therefore I listen out for it.

When I'm not expecting something, if its not convenient to open the door I don't.

Its not rocket science.

Toothbrush that's fine in theory but in my house it's hard to see who it is at the front door from any angle from inside, and I sometimes get friends/my DM pop in unexpectedly, so I don't like to leave the door unanswered! I am also on good terms with my two neighbours either side of my house and they will occasionally knock on the door for chats/favours etc. However, door-openage also means having to talk to annoying callers as well.

I guess if it was family/friends knocking they'd come back again later or call if it's important but sometimes just an informal chat as you were passing by the area is nicer than a diarised time constrained coffee morning etc...

Idk im just digressing :p

I don't understand the issue here - why don't you just refuse to take the parcels? They'll soon stop doing it. Or put up a sign, as PP have suggested.

I take in loads of parcels for my neighbour.

She's a SAHM.

Neither DP nor I can get deliveries at work. I prefer to use the lockers but not all deliveries can be made to them.

I assume they'll leave a card for us to go and pick it up. I wouldn't expect a neighbour to take it in. Just say no.

PMSL at everyone thinking Mintyy has really had 250 parcels since Monday

I took one in for my neighbour yesterday and the bloke took a picture of my front door number and then of the open door to prove he passed it over. First time that has happened so it must be new.

I don't mind doing it, I am in most of the day and it doesn't hurt me to take them in.

ROFL Trills - I remember the Poo-f thread

My lovely neighbours are retired and at least one is home all the time and they are happy to take my parcels, even though they never need me to reciprocate. they leave them in their conservatory so that I can collect without disturbing them.

Also, even if you've expected a delivery to turn up when you're in, it doesn't always happen like that.

DH ordered something on next day delivery a few weeks ago, on a Saturday. We expected that this meant the parcel would turn up next working day, i.e. Monday, when we'd be around. The parcel turned up on Sunday morning, just as we were on our way out for the day. That completely took us by surprise, we had no idea any delivery company did Sunday deliveries.

I'm so disappointed it wasn't 250 parcels. I liked the idea of dear Minty running up and down all those stairs all day, getting all angry yet svelte

Sahm here i dont mind

So, are you going to put a sign up?

Yanbu

if people can't get stuff delivered to work then they need to either 1) use a drop box service or 2) at the very least, ask you if you mind being a designated alternative delivery place

it is a pain having the doorbell go all the time especially if you're trying to get a baby to nap!

but

it may not be the neighbours' fault. They may assume that if they miss the delivery it will go back to depot. But loads of delivery drivers are now paid per parcel, not on a salary or per delivery attempt, so they are desperate to avoid another delivery attempt and will fob the parcel off onto anyone who will take it. I hate these payment policies and I'm afraid I say no to deliveries for everyone except my immediate next door neighbours.

I write 'put parcel in front porch' for delivery instructions. My neighbours are lovely but its embarrassing to have to go round and ask for my parcels if the postie leaves them there.

I put leave in car port but im not bothered taking them in

250 parcels since Monday?

That's nothing. I took in 638 just today.

I order online a lot. I've never even thought to have to state do not deliver to my neighbours, surely my delivery instructions are deliver to my address, and my address only, unless I say 'deliver to my neighbour at number 16 if I'm not in' as a special instruction. I would expect a 'sorry we missed you' type card and to collect from the depot. In all honesty, I've had one parcel dropped with a neighbour, and one hossed over the electric gates (don't use home delivery network, ever) and other than that we probably have 1-2 cards to collect from the depot each week. This is good as I can pick them all up on a Saturday morning. Most people work, many standard office hours, would you prefer delivery drivers moved to nights and delivered in their big trucks at 10pm as then at least people would be in...

I could have things delivered to work place but then I'm constantly on the move so may not be in the office for a few days. I have said no to accepting neighbours parcels before when I've been at home, on the grounds that I've never met them and have no idea when they'll be back. Happily accept for the neighbours I do know.

It's pretty simple. If you don't want to take parcels in say no. Get a spy hole fitted and don't answer the door to delivery drivers if you don't want to talk to them.

Either some other neighbour will take in the parcels or neighbours will start arranging for them to be delivered elsewhere.

It is not always clear which company delivers and I much prefer when it is Royal Mail, so goes to depot and I then collect rather than a courier which goes to a neighbour, it should be more clear when you place an order how it will be delivered.

Interesting most people think OP is BU. I did an AIBU on this from the reverse angle and most people thought I was BU. So I can only assume that on AIBU there is a tendency to want to tell the OP they are BU

I find the whole delivery thing really annoying as every delivery firm has its own policy and it's rarely clear when you order how things will be delivered. I used to order online a lot assuming it would be a Royal Mail delivery and that I'd need to pick up from the sorting office at weekends. These days it's more often a courier firm, and it's pot luck as to whether they will leave package in our porch, take it away and redeliver, expect us to pick it up from their depot or leave with a neighbour.

My view is still that unless I'm giving 'leave with neighbour' as a delivery instruction without asking the neughbours I'm not being unreasonable.