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to not want my kid to go to a mosque ...again!

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moaningminnie2 · 01/10/2014 14:46

We live in North Yorkshire and every year the village Cof E school run a whole-school trip to Bradford.First they went to a mosque, then the following year a Gurdwara and then a Hindu temple, and now this year back to a mosque again.They do that in the morning, then have lunch and a run around in a park, and then in the afternoon a quick visit to 'Bombay Stores' and then back home for school pick up. DD and her friends don't want to go ( they went in Y2) and I resent having to pay £13 for each of my 2 kids at the school.Whaty is the point of going to the same place again, and do the school get 'Brownie Points' for doing this sort of RE trip.

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x2boys · 01/10/2014 16:20

My sister teaches at a c of e school cheesepuff that ironically has about 98% of the pupils that are Muslim they do celebrate all festivals from all festivals religions they don't really focus on any one religion!

workhouse · 01/10/2014 16:21

Well I wouldn't want to pay that kind of money for a school trip to go anywhere twice to be honest, be it a castle, a museum or a place of worship. For heavens sake there are enough places of interest in the world, and more things to learn about than religion!

LaurieFairyCake · 01/10/2014 16:25

Going more than once to a place is perfectly normal

If you lived next to Hampton Court you might go there to learn about Henry 8th and then again to learn even more or even about a different subject in other years

BasketzatDawn · 01/10/2014 16:25

I have quite a bigoted friend who was freaking out that her son - then mid teens - began hanging around with a Muslim kid and then began attending services. Months later it turned out he just liked the food at he mosque kitchen.Grin

Your children in 4 years will have matured, presumably, so will get something more from the experience now they are older. £13 is a lot for a school trip though.

And as others have said, why not a synagogue? They could go to Leeds or York for that. Can you tell I've not read the whole thread yet?!

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2014 16:26

£13 is alot tbh. If that is covering the coach surely all the school trips would cost that much and this k e wouldn't be singled out.

Aren't churches/mosques etc open to everyone in the sense of no entry fee?

adsy · 01/10/2014 16:28

OFSTED do indeed give "brownie points" for things like visiting mosques / celebrating non Christian festivals etc.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2014 16:28

And I wouldn't want to pay it to look at a church or any other building either but then I never really enjoyed looking at churches or castles or cathedrals.

workhouse · 01/10/2014 16:29

Going to a place more than once might be perfectly normal, but it doesn't show much imagination.

LaurieFairyCake · 01/10/2014 16:31

You won't be paying money to the church it will be for the coach/insurance

And it's not about enjoyment, you don't remove your kids from an educational trip because you don't think they'll enjoy it. If it was a fun trip and not education then fine, but this is part of the curriculum.

If you can't afford it then the school will likely still pay so that your children can fully access the curriculum.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2014 16:34

But isn't that the point? That all school trips at that place must he really expensive if coaches alone cost 13 pound each. Would you not see why op may not want to visit twice as they have already been and it's alot of money.

BlueBrightBlue · 01/10/2014 16:35

RE is part of the curriculum and quite rightly so. I do think it is important for everyone to have a basic grasp of other religions and lifestyles.

It's interesting to see how many non Christians attend church at Christmas; who doesn't love to belt out a carol?

My dc attends a youth club at a local Gurdwara and is one of only 2 white children, neither of who are Sikh yet the local Church youth club has lots of non Christian members. I think there is an assumption among some people that somehow Christianity is safe and " neutral".

Viviennemary · 01/10/2014 16:36

Personally speaking I think it's a very good idea. But you should retain the right to not send your DC's to this if you don't want to. But I agree £13 is quite a lot for a bus ride across town.

Goldmandra · 01/10/2014 16:36

Do you think your child learned everything there is to learn about Islam on one trip in Y2? Hmm

workhouse · 01/10/2014 16:38

As far as I can remember my children haven't visited a mosque, they have visited the Mandir in Neasden, and had a wonderful time, and have learnt about the major religions, obviously, but have never actually visited a mosque.

LaurieFairyCake · 01/10/2014 16:39

It isn't about what you 'want' when we 're talking about the curriculum. It's not a 'fun' trip.

If she can't afford it then she will likely be helped to access the curriculum.

This is not about the same trip twice as no one is stupid enough to not understand that children get different things at different ages.

This is about the 'mosque'.

No one really believes that the OP would object to two trips to an Art Gallery 3 years apart do they Hmm

BlueBrightBlue · 01/10/2014 16:41

She would if she had to shell out £13 a pop.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2014 16:41

Be more of there's an entry fee too.

That school. Must cost a fortune

cleanmachine · 01/10/2014 16:42

My kids went on a mosque trip and absolutely loved it. They were given a tour of the mosque and gifted prayer beads (can be used for non muslim prayers too before op freaks out) and lunch was provided. They'd love to go again actually.

Its commendable that religious places are opening up to school groups. It is needed, especially amongst certain neighbours of mine who refused to let their son go out with a muslim girl.

cleanmachine · 01/10/2014 16:42

Agree with laurie btw.

OwlCapone · 01/10/2014 16:44

OP, I think your attitude is extremely narrow minded TBH.

They will learn and retain different things in Y4 than they did in Y1. You don't learn everything there is to know and see everything there is to see in one short trip.

Get a grip and try to open your mind.

OwlCapone · 01/10/2014 16:45

No one really believes that the OP would object to two trips to an Art Gallery 3 years apart do they

I certainly don't.

tippytappywriter · 01/10/2014 16:46

OP interested to know what you're going to do? Will she go?

Tiptops · 01/10/2014 16:48

YY to everything Laurie has said. This is about the trip being to a mosque, end of.

HappyAgainOneDay · 01/10/2014 16:48

May I be inquisitive and ask if your DD was allowed to go into every corner of the mosque when she visited it? Were the boys separated from the girls there?

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moaningminnie2 · 01/10/2014 16:52

'No one really believes that the OP would object to two trips to an Art Gallery 3 years apart do they'

I would if I had to pay £13 per child per visit

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