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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to not have answered the door?

25 replies

mommy2ash · 30/09/2014 22:49

well just that really. someone was just knocking at my door and honestly it made me nervous. now I'm feeling a bit silly. nobody i calls to my house unannounced except for my brother on the odd occasion but he calls in the letterbox.

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fanjobiscuits · 30/09/2014 22:50

Yanbu. Your door, your choice. Probably some idiot sales person wanting to waste your time.

Casmama · 30/09/2014 22:50

It's your door-YANBU. If important they could leave a note.

icanhaveadarksideifyouwantmeto · 30/09/2014 22:57

i only answer the door if its convenient to me.
I only answer the landline if i feel like, and i like the look of a number (i have user id)
I keep my mobile phone on silent with no vibrate....so i look at it to see who has called, and if i can be bothered i will return a call or two.

I have an agreement with the postman (and he is a bloke) that if the window is open, just put things through the window and i'll get them later.

I have been living like this since I stopped working in an office and i could choose to answer a phone or not ( in work we always had targets to meet, answer within 7 rings or no bonus for you matey!)

drives DH insane!

really, though, its your life, live it how you like!

but it doesnt give me a moments pause. And I've NEVER missed anything important

puntasticusername · 30/09/2014 22:59

YANBU. Who on earth would it have been at this time of night? Nothing wrong with trusting your instincts here, I say.

Dawndonnaagain · 30/09/2014 23:01

Good on you, dark side! (Am now singing Tim Mincin songs)!

Dawndonnaagain · 30/09/2014 23:02

Minchin! Bloody iPad!

LeftRightCentre · 30/09/2014 23:03

YANBU

BadtzMaru · 30/09/2014 23:14

Well, the last time someone knocked on my door at an unsociable hour it was my neighbour telling me my car had been vandalised so you never know if it might be important. Don't you have a safety chain if it worries you to open the door to unknown callers?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 30/09/2014 23:24

Y.N.B.U. I wont answer my door either to unexpected people. D.P and D.D have key and mum always texts before she comes up

poolomoomon · 01/10/2014 07:51

Yanbu. I only answer the door to couriers, postman and expected visitors or someone I know. Hate the sound of knocking on the door or the phone ringing, have no idea where or why this started but it doesn't half send my anxiety all over the shop. It's harder to ignore the door now because we have a bay window and the DC gawp out of the side window to see who it is, I feel awful then purposely ignoring it! But hate cold callers with a passion. Same with my phone, landline has been unplugged for years and my mobile is constantly on silent. I only answer calls from people I know and even then sometimes I think "ahh leave it, I'll call them back later." Antisocial twerp I am .

So yanbu at all, your house your rules.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/10/2014 07:58

Noway not this time of night. Yanbu at all.

Valsoldknickers · 01/10/2014 08:00

Definitely trust your instincts.

IMO YANBU, but then I'm a Nervous Nelly!

Hope you slept ok.

InYourPockets · 01/10/2014 08:06

I have recently started only opening the door, taking phone calls if it suits me. As has been said it is your life. If it is important they will put a note through your door.

AgentProvocateur · 01/10/2014 08:07

Last time my DS knocked someone's door in the evening, it was to say there was an injured man in the road and to ask someone to phone the ambulance. I'm glad they answered.

ChippingInLatteLover · 01/10/2014 08:11

It is your door, do as you please.

I'm torn between 'Sensible move' and 'I hope you never need help at night'. Then there's always the fact that I'm farrrrr too curious not to answer the door

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 01/10/2014 08:16

I only ever used to open the door when convenient to me. Ds2 pulled the blinds down though and now walking down my drive you can see directly in to me sat on the sofa. Hmm, i was putting it off, but now i think of this, i'm going to have rto sort out new ones

HerVagesty · 01/10/2014 08:35

Another non-answerer here. If I'm not expecting a delivery or a visitor the door stays closed.

One of my nosey neighbours has knocked on the door two days in a row and woken my newborn during a feed - next time I'm going to answer with my breast out and a screaming baby... (I wouldn't mind but she only ever knocks to prattle on about our bins being in the "wrong place").

Bouttimeforwine · 01/10/2014 08:43

I'd probably have shouted down from an upstairs window. If it was dodgy and I was on my own, I'd then have a pretend conversation with a pretend someone else.

80sMum · 01/10/2014 08:53

If I was in the house alone, I wouldn't answer the door at that time of night, unless of course I knew who it was. If DH was here, I might get him to answer it.

cherrybombxo · 01/10/2014 09:29

I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting a visitor/parcel delivery. YANBU, if it was important they would have left a note.

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mommy2ash · 01/10/2014 10:28

thanks everyone. I was feeling a bit ridiculous last night. im a single parent with a small child So didn't want to open the door to someone i don't know especially as I live next to a pub. I really hope it wasn't someone looking for help.

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skylark2 · 01/10/2014 11:33

That's really late - I wouldn't have wanted to open the door to a stranger if I was alone in the house at that time either.

If they were looking for help surely they could have gone to the pub?

LemonadeRayGun · 01/10/2014 16:40

Nope, I wouldnt have opened the door that time of night on my own either.

championnibbler · 06/10/2014 21:28

I wouldn't answer either. I often ignore knocks at the door because its usually people wanting money for some random charity that i have never heard of.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 06/10/2014 22:29

I know I've posted before but last night. Me and d,d had a knock on out door. It was very light. Almost like a child's knock. I looked at my fone to see if anyone had text me to say they were on there way. I then toyed with the thought that my d.d's friend had had a#n argument with her family and came to mine but no text on my d.d's fone. It wasn't d.p. He has a key and he's not the type to just turn up.
I am not unpleasant but nor friendly with my neighbours so I'm sure it wasn't one of neighbours knocking for a chat or anything.
I mean it wasn't even a frantic knock but it must have been important top knock at that hour. I wouldn't have dreamed of answering the door.
I would have questioned my imagination but both my d.d and me heard it and we can't both have imagined things.

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