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To feel uncomfortable about this?

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 19:35

Dd is 5 and in year one. She has told me before about two of her friends (girls) kissing a boy.
Today she told me she kissed him.
I was very uncomfortable about it and told her that you don't kiss boys or girls in school.
I don't know if I did the right thing or I'm overreacting or if it sunk in as she kept chatting about different things she did in school.

These same girls apparently call a young man who works in the office 'handsome boy' whenever they see him according to dd which she finds highly amusing.

Is this normal 5 year old behaviour ? And do I just need to unclench so to speak?

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Cantbelievethisishappening · 30/09/2014 19:39

I spent many a happy break time playing kiss chase when I was in primary school. Also had a terrible crush on an older lad. Unclench Grin

HolyQuadrityDrinkFeckArseGirls · 30/09/2014 19:41

I'd speak to the teacher about it. Children are naturally curious but parents nee to control the pace at which things are discovered/ explored.

HighwayDragon · 30/09/2014 19:42

Unclench. Our kids have been 'kissing' each other by licking each others mouths, they've been snogging! Hilarious story to tell her when she's older

Flexibilityisquay · 30/09/2014 19:43

I think it is very normal thing for small children to do, but also something that needs to be stopped at school. They need to learn it is not appropriate. I would have a chat with the teacher, but not worry too much about it.

2minsofyourtime · 30/09/2014 19:44

I wouldn't like anyone kissing my ds, I would really stress about it, but I think we are both bu

loudarts · 30/09/2014 19:45

My dcs school has a no kissing rule so yanbu

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 19:46

Ok thanks. I was not brought up in the UK so stuff like this is very new to me.
We were not allowed to have boyfriends even at 15-16 years old so it's good to know it's not too big a worry.

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Seafoam · 30/09/2014 19:47

handsome sounds like something a parent has said in front of them.

I would not be happy about the kissing- think the teacher needs to have a class talk..

Annarose2014 · 30/09/2014 19:47

I kissed my first boy at about 5. He tasted like crisps and I wasn't too impressed. Grin It was the neighbour boy, in my garden.

I'm sure if my mother had known she'd have freaked. But I didn't kiss another boy until I was 16! Those crisps stayed with me! Ugh!

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 19:48

Plus I'm friends with the mums of the kids and would not want to bring this up so glad for mumsnet.
Will try and have a quick word with the teacher though.

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Itsfab · 30/09/2014 19:49

I discovered my son and a girl had a kiss, both were happy but knew they shouldn't have done it afterwards according to the teacher. We asked the teacher to speak to them. I had visions of the girl's father coming round with a shot gun. They were older than five though. No one has been kissing since.

combust22 · 30/09/2014 19:52

I kissed my first boy at 5. I only let him do it if he ate some privet hedge leaves to prove his love beforehand. He did bless him. And he gave me his Noddy Book.

Didn't find out till a few years later that privet is very toxic. Woops!

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 19:53

It's the one boy. And three girls now including dd. They are all very good friends and play together all the time.

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Wozald1989 · 30/09/2014 19:55

I remember playing kiss chase at 5, and my lo when she started school there was quite a bit of kissing between the little ones so they banned any kissing

MrsPiggie · 30/09/2014 20:05

I don't think it's a matter of concern but I do find it a bit uncomfortable as well. Just as I found it uncomfortable to see a 5 yo girl showing her classmates a picture of the one direction boys and telling them which one she likes best.

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 20:09

I was in so much trouble for kissing my boyfriend when I was 15 so it was a shock to hear my 5 year old telling me she kissed someone.

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YourHandInMyHand · 30/09/2014 20:13

Im assuming its an innocent 5yr old peck of a kiss rather than a full on snog.Grin The only thing I would check is that all involved are happy, the 5yr old boy may like being centre of attention but he might he fed up of the girls fussing.

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SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 30/09/2014 20:22

True YourHand, will definitely have a word with the teacher.

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SquirrelWearingATrilby · 30/09/2014 20:41

The days of playing Kiss Chase. Grin

Walking around the playground asking random people if they were a train or a tunnel and rolling round the floor laughing regardless of their answer.

Daring each other to go into the boys toilets.

Joy of being 5 and going back into the classroom and sitting on the carpet for a story and 2 sweeties from the sweetie tin.

Moreisnnogedag · 30/09/2014 20:45

I had a boyfriend at 4 (harlot Blush) but only let him kiss me on the cheek. Then I pushed him off a swing and he didn't want to be my bf anymore.

ChippingInLatteLover · 30/09/2014 20:47

Oh let them alone, it's all harmless. Kiss chase was the best bit in primary school... I learnt not to run too quickly Grin

golemmings · 30/09/2014 21:23

Funnily enough my 5yo this morning said that she and her friend had been kissing boys on the lips...

I assumed it was largely innocent - if indeed true - and told her that it was OK if they had asked first and the boy was happy with it.

She mostly doesn't like the boys in her class so I imagine they will get very bored very quickly and go back to playing frozen and stuck in the mud.

Heyho111 · 30/09/2014 23:08

Like everything in child development you start practicing relationships right from an early age. It's how you learn.

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