AIBU to wonder if school be calling us back after class already?

[schooldayz]

I really honestly don't know as have never had a child go to school before. DD is three and has just started mornings at nursery.

The teacher called us back the other day for 'up and down' behaviour. She's been there three weeks. Today the incident was that she got paint on another child's uniform (on purpose).

The other comment made to us before today was that she can be "full of mischief."

The school has a great reputation with some of the best results in the country (it's not private). We have been warned by three different people that the school like to keep the results up and children to conform.

The teachers are lovely and she comes home singing every day having learned something new and done something fun.

I'd be a bit with her being 3, to be honest - at preschool age I'm not sure I'd be expecting the staff to be taking me to one side and telling me about that sort of incident. I'd just be trusting them to deal with that sort of behaviour. DS2 is 3 and at his preschool I imagine there are dozens of incidents like that every day, both from him and all his little buddies, as there is in everyday life at 3. I don't think I would expect to be told about them, unless there was violence, unhappiness or repeated unpleasant behaviour. And I am definitely not "one of those parents" either, so I'm with your DH.

I agree with Cake

School should deal with it, recognising it as on the normal spectrum of 3 year old behaviour

"School should deal with it, recognising it as on the normal spectrum of 3 year old behaviour"

Yes, but then when it comes to the point of mentioning it at a later date, all hell breaks loose as the parent says "Why wasn't I told before?"

Schools can't win.

Well I suppose only time will tell...Surely they can't decide not to let our child into their nearest school based on behaviour?! I know that nursery doesn't mean school place - is that what was meant?

On balance I'm happier knowing I think. Another child scratched her the other day and we were told and the other parents told (or so we were informed). They laboured the point that she was unprovoked and didn't retaliate which we were happy about.

Upset she was scratched though obviously! It happens though. She's oft been the scratcher.

Agree with Newt etc - 3 year olds do stuff like this all the time - it is the school's job to deal with it.
My DS attended a "highly rated" nursery that really had delusions of grandeur and didn't understand very young children.

I was summoned in because he had scribbled on his workbook.
He was 2 and a half at the time.
I moved him asap.

Isn't that a good thing at 2?!

Agree with others - it is good for the school to keep you in the loop, but they need to deal with specific incidents in school.

What do they mean by "full of mischief"? As a parent I would be wondering what their concern was. I assume children get paint and mud on each other all day long. Was the problem that she was told the correct rules about using the paint but was ignoring them after being reminded? Was she over excited? Were the children playing or was this 'paint attack' just random?Are they not that bothered but just like to keep parents informed?

Sorry - prone to mischeif.

Is the nursery actually attached to a school?

"School" and "teachers" and "uniform" for 3 year olds

I am a teacher, I teach in a nursery that is part of a school. Many of our parents chose to send their children to us in uniform.

We are a very ordinary school on a council estate.

putting paint on a uniform can have consequences for the paintee and the parent who has to clean the stuff out of it.

rather be told about these things early and work with the school on them than not.

if they are hot on behaviour, then it will be better for your child in the long run.

And who knows, maybe the parents of the child who was painted have come in kicking up a stink about their child's uniform having paint on it.