Background. So we have 3 boys. 11, 9 and 2. Dh has a good job which involves a fairly lengthy commute so is outof house 12 hours per day. I am pretty much a Sahm although do do a few hours self employed but this is quite seasonal. Dh does looks after dc if I am out during the week but doesn't do any of the other stuff that goes along with it so invariably house is messier when I return. He does do garden and occassionally cooks at weekend but that is it. Ds sleeps better when I am around and I do all night wakings for all dc and never get a lie in at the weekend either as dh gets up before me during the week.
When we discussed what we would do when we had the was very much well it's up to you.
so we have found our unplanned 3rd child a strain on the finances and my workload. Dh's workload has hardly changed. Coupled with us losing child benefit.
So this weekend dh was looking at the finances and moaned wewould be short by x this month. So I started looking and found a part time nights job I could go for. It would pay a higher rate than a similar dayrtime role and I worked out I could get by by paying for childcare temporarily for youngest so I could sleep during the day. I would still do school runs and sleep whilst dc at school or childminder. I would also be back in time for dh to go to work.
His response was "well if you didn't spend so much on groceries and sold dc's outgrown clothes and toys you wouldn't need too" I was foolishly hoping for "great idea. Let me help you with the applicaion process as I haven't applied for a job since leaving school"
Tbh this really upset me. I feel like he is being negative because me potentially working would mean he would have to do more in the house.
Wibu to apply anyway.