To think she never cared about the friendship and this proves it

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So I had a friend who I have known for about ten years. It was always me who texted to meet up and she always came, never let me down etc. anyway, she has now moved away from London but promised she would stay in touch, we could meet etc. well, on facebook it seems she had a b
40 th bday do at a local spa to me and didn't invite me. The pics show people she claimed we're not much fun but they had been invited. I need to let this go, stop texting etc but feel a bit sad. Is this normal?

Should I still send a Xmas card for old time sake or should I just delete number and move on?

Thanks
Also have lots of mates and busy life so don't need her in it but just valued the friendship

Move on

Yes you are right, feel pathetic about being upset over it

Delete her number, block her from Facebook and move on. She sounds a real cow.

You don't know that the spa day wasn't a gift from other friends. She may not have written the invite list. If it was a large party then YANBU otherwise I'd not automatically jump to an assumption.

What is irritating is her lack of interest. I don't have time for people that don't make time for anyone so I could cull on that basis, not the 40th spa invitation. I'd probably still send a Christmas card for old times sake and let the friendship drift of it's own accord rather than having a big blow out.

I still send a Christmas card. That way when she has shat on a few more friends and has none left she'll know where to find you and you can tell her to piss off.

I think deleting is a tad harsh! Bloody hell, if we all went around ditching our friends because of not being invited to things, most of us would have a very sparse Christmas card list.

Here is my advice: don't worry about it.

I think deleting is a tad harsh! Bloody hell, if we all went around ditching our friends because of not being invited to things, most of us would have a very sparse Christmas card list

So you judge how many friends you have by how many cards you send out at Christmas?

I think it's abit silly to be upset about the spa day. It's the type of thing that her local friends may have organised. The could have paid for her too.

I'd just step back and send a card if you want to.

Friendships move on. It doesn't mean she didn't value your friendship before it just means she is busy with new things. It's not nice but it's pretty normal.

Er, bit literal there Squirrel! It's a common turn of phrase, have you not heard it before?

Are all the friends local friends?

Maybe it was a local party, for local people. Tubs

Sorry, don't mean to be glib. It is hurtful to feel overlooked but perhaps it was just arranged last minute within that one strand of her friendship circle?

Maybe she thought you would hate it and she was doing you a favour by not inviting you?