AIBU what would you do/feel?

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Not sure if this is the right board but I need opinions and you guys aren't shy ;)
I live abroad with my DH and we are expecting our first child. Since Friday I have been in hospital as I.have developed pre-emclapsia and needed some help. Today the Drs decided that waiting was doung me more harm than benefiting baby so tomorrow morning I am having a c section. I am really nervous/scared. I have never had health problems or been in hospital before.
Because this is so early my mum hadn't planned on coming here till next month and so I have had to accept my mum won't be here. Trouble is (I know this is pathetic and illogical) I REALLY want an older woman with me in recovery whilst my H is with baby. I can't explain really why I need a woman with me I just do. So my MiL was asking for an update and in a weak moment I asked her to be with me. She said yes and has sorted childcare/work so she will be with me.

This is the Q: I am worried my mum will be upset (we have a difficult relationship) that I asked my MiL. AIBU? How would you react if it were your daughter? Wwyd in my place? Do I tell mum that MiL will be here? Opinions please!

If my daughter were in the hospital and I couldn't get to her, I think I'd be happy that someone else was there and easing her stay.

I'd just mention it all breezy.

It's not your mom's fault and it's unreasonable for her to expect you to be alone.

Congrats on your baby btw!

Oh God no she won't be upset! I have DDs. If they were in your position I would just be glad they had someone with them.

My MIL would be my second choice too op. By the way....I had pre eclampsia and a section and it was all absolutely FINE. So much better than getting iller and iller and risking things.

Come back when you've got your baby and tell us how it went.

This is about what you need , here and now
As a mum I would be sad I couldn't get there on time , but grateful you had somebody with you
Hope everything goes well x

Needs must. Your Dm wont be bale to get there in time, so you have the next best thing. YOu do what you have to do to get through things

What you need is vastly more important at this point than your mum's feelings. Asking your mil to be there was definitely not a weak thing to do. You will have to tell your mum that mil was there as she will probably find out at some point but don't make an issue out of it. If your mum is upset then she must get over it.

Good luck for tomorrow, hope all goes well.

Hopefully this will create a good relationship between you and MIL. You need help, and MIL is able to do that.
Hope all goes well.

Yaaaaaay a baby!

Oh good luck op. The important thing is you will have support

How lovely that you have the kind of relationship with your mil that you want and can ask her to do this for you.

If you were my daughter, of course I'd be gutted that I couldn't get there but I'd just be thankful that you had someone supporting you (and pleased that you had a nice mil!)

If your Mum is upset, she will just have to get on with it. You are the one having an operation and a baby so your feelings are more important here. It's not remotely pathetic or illogical to want her there.

Actually, if I were your mil, I'd feel honoured to be asked