Jewelery

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My mother passed and I was left a lot of jewelery, point in question was a pair of gold bracelets. My daughter was looking at them and I said if you want to borrow them go ahead. She did, Now she says they are her inheritence because I told her I would like them back. I told her she would get them when I die...I am 59 so no time soon. She says no way. What are my options anyone????

Eh? So your daughter has effectively stolen your jewellery? Does she have form for this kind of thing or is it out of character?

Can you just go to her house and get them back? She has no claim on them, and even if you were planning to leave them to her, she would still need to wait until you shuffle off this mortal coil before she gets her hands on them.

Does she have anything from her grandmother to remember her by or could you reach an agreement whereby she can borrow them for special occasions? Is there another piece that you would be happy to give her now? It's so difficult when you are both bereaved as things take on a new sentimental value when you are feeling a loss.

How old is your daughter? Does she live with you? Do you usually have a good relationship?

I often feel like mumsnet is another world and this is one of those times. I would never dream of stealing something from my own mother. I have borrowed her jewellery (I'm not aware if any was ever passed down from my grandmother) but I have taken immense care of it and given it back straight away.

Did your dd get any of her grandmothers jewellery when she died?

Shocking behaviour. Tell her she is welcome to the bracelets as her inheritance if she wishes to force your hand in that manner, but if she does, then it will be her only inheritance.

You were left a lot of the jewellery so why just not give it to her? Let her get some enjoyment from using it now. It's sad to squabble over this.

How old is she?

I will start at the top and try to fill in the blanks,
Yes she did get a very expensive ring 3000 when she got married
She is 30 and since she had my grand daughter I just dont know who she is anymore, it seems no matter what I say or do it is wrong and she treats me like I am the child and talks to me like I am nothing.
She has never stolen anything from me or anyone else.
I cannot go to her house because I am the bad one because I asked her for them. I would like to wear them they were left as a set of 4 for each of sisters 12 in all I was going to leave 2 for her and 2 for my other daughter
She was given the opportunity to use her grand mothers 25th wedding anniversary rings as her own or incoperate them into her new rings..again she said no ..so I said well then bring them back...Again I get a no..
I want to call the police just to scare her back in place I would never do that to my mother or talk the way she does. Kids these days have no respect. My other daughter she is so different than her sister....gees!! I am so baffeled??

wow... I would be round there hammering on the door and telling her in no uncertain terms that you want the jewellery back and that her "inheritance" has just fucked off out the window due to her disgusting attitude. Take your other daughter with you for support if you can.

Cheeky as.