This might be long so bear with me.
DD who is 8 and in Yr 4 was very upset when I picked her up from school today. It was obvious she had been crying but wouldn't tell me what was wrong. When we got home she started crying again but still wouldn't tell me what was wrong.
I've been trying to drag it out of her all afternoon but she didn't budge until about an hour ago and now I don't know whether to take this further or not but I am very angry.
A bit of background first. At her school from Year 4 onwards they start doing class activities with some of the younger year groups. They get given a partner in a younger a year group and they do things like reading together, helping with homework, etc. My DD has been paired with a Yr 1 child (let's call her Holly) and another girl from Yr 4 (let's call her Emily). Emily has had a history of bullying DD in the past but it doesn't seem to have been a problem this year yet.
So this afternoon DD, along with Emily and Holly were in the Yr 1 classroom and they had been doing some activities together. My DD found a piece of paper with some simple words written on (I assume it was being used to practice spelling earlier on) and DD shows the paper to Emily and asked her if it's hers to which she said no and the paper was then tossed aside and forgotten about.
A short while later DD was sharpening a pencil at the bin when the year 1 teacher shouted her over and demanded that she got over there immediately. DD said the teacher looked very angry. Holly and Emily were also with the teacher and they were both looking at her too.
When DD got there the teacher started shouting at her, saying that Emily had told her that she had written some very nasty things on the paper about Holly and had also said some nasty things about her. DD didn't have a clue what she was talking about but when she tried explaining this the teacher just cut her off and kept shouting at her. She said that the teacher shouted at her for a very long time and accused her of saying these nasty things about Holly. When the teacher demanded to see this piece of paper Emily said that she had ripped it up and put it in the bin (DD says she hadn't thrown anything in the bin).
When she got back to her own classroom her own teacher told her off although she wasn't as angry as the other teacher had been and by that point dd said she was too upset to put her story across.
Thinking about it though, AIBU to think this could have been handled so much better? Assuming it really did happen like that then I really don't think the teacher should have just jumped in and started shouting at my daughter and accusing her of these things based on another child's word without also listening to my daughter's side first. Couldn't she have just asked dd nicely and calmly what had happened? Or at the very least not just started shouting at her?
This teacher only started last year so I don't know her and my dd never had her. So she doesn't really know my dd or Emily.
Maybe I am overreacting but I don't know whether to go in tomorrow and ask what happened. My DD is going through a lot at the minute and we are in the middle of getting an ASD diagnosis for her so I don't know if I'm being oversensitive.
I just don't think the teacher handled this the best way by going in all guns ablazing without even listening to my DD.
Poor DD is still upset and doesn't want to go to school tomorrow 
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