Clearing away clean dishes etc

[ChillySundays]

Why is it so hard to put things away? Why can't the DH look in cupboards to work out where the casserole dish goes? We don't have many cupboards in the kitchen so it's not that hard. Accumulating a number of different items on the work top now. Know it's petty for me not to put them away but I am so fed up of it.
Have found a rogue empty cleaned vase on the sideboard in the dining room. It goes in a kitchen cupboard
Know there are more important things in life but sometime it's the little things

Snap! Instead he leaves a big stack of plates on the leaf of the kitchen table. It's a habit he developed as he used to have mobility problems, which have now been sorted - however he can't get his head round the idea that 'doing the dishes' involves putting them away.

We've been married for 26 yrs but DH still "forgets" where things go.

To him, any empty cupboard space is useable - in this way mugs can end up next to pans and I'm still trying to locate my juice squeezer (last seen circa 1999!!!).

They're men - need we say more!!!!!

Mine does this too. It's not because they're men. It's because they don't care.

Is it really such a problem? Really? In the great scheme of things?

Just LTB, the fucker cant open a cupboard, obviously grounds for divorce.

See in house we work as a team, one stacks the dishwasher, one empties, the first puts away ..... its all done in tandem ... when the dishwasher is broken, one washes, one dries and puts away. Team.

Haha i have just had words with DH about similar. I think he secretly hopes I will just end up doing it but unfortunately for him I am one stubborn lady! Tonight he took his clothes off for shower and threw them on floor BESIDE washing basket. Sent him a pic msg on facebook saying well done honey you were nearly there x
They will be moved by him before he goes to work end of.

Seriously anyone (female that is!) could come to my house and where to put the stuff away.
The other one is we have a drawer for chopping knives and he gets the knives out of there. For some reason he puts them away in the cutlery drawer?!!!

Mom - if the clothes aren't in the basket they don't get washed! Rule applies to everyone in the house. Problem is I go from no washing to be done to a full basket when he decides to have tidy up

Admit - I know it's not a huge problem but if you can get the things out of the cupboard how can you not know where it goes a few hours later

It's not teamwork if one person habitually lets you take on the lions share, the "grown up" job.

Ha that is my mantra chilly! He immediately puts his work shirts in basket cause he knows he would end up with none to wear.

I hate putting dishes away.

Not my favourite job either but if I just dumped things on the work tops we would have empty cupboards. Don't like ironing but have to do that as well

The stuff that gets left on the kitchen side by my DH is stuff that he doesn't know which cupboard it belongs in. Last week this included a teapot. I asked him where the lid of the teapot was as it was missing...the conversation went like this
Me 'Where is the teapot lid?'
DD 'I don't know'
'Me 'how the hell don't you know? you empited the dishwasher.. it went in.. it's come out ...where did you put it?'
DH ' I don't know ... I just put it somewhere .. you look for it'
Me (trying to control my temper at this point) 'seriously? just tell me where you put it..' then I found it.....in the cupboard with the glasses
DH 'well that's where it fitted'
So despite the fact that the rest of the teapot didn't fit, it didn't occur to him that the lid should belong with the pot and should stay with it

TW*T
Can't wait to get my own back...

Sorry about the typos ... tired!

So despite the fact that the rest of the teapot didn't fit, it didn't occur to him that the lid should belong with the pot and should stay with it

Trouble - that is so funny!

LTB.....

Maybe tell him he can decide where everything goes - then he has no excuse for not knowing ... and you'll work with whatever he chooses.

My DP tries to "help" with this but I find casserole dishes on top of the soup bowls in the plate cupboard and kitchen utensils in with the pots and pans

Oh god yes. With bells on. Whenever anyone else does the wiping up in this house they always always always leave something on the draining board unwiped. Either because it's an object they cant be arsed to wipe (large/tricky angles), cant be arsed to reach up an put away, or because they don't know where it goes and cant be arsed to ask.

Then - lo! The bloody ''I'll Do It Then'' fairy comes and gets faced with it when everyone else has buggered off to the far corners of the house. Easier to do it myself than summon who ever left it there but WHYYYYYYYYY?

Tried and tested technique to get out of doing things you don't want to: do them so badly it will be easier for the other person to do it themselves.

Do you know, I can't complain as DH does contribute fairly to household stuff, but there are times I have deliberately not done stuff to see who cracks first:

Things on the bottom of the stairs to be carried up
Putting the empty toilet roll tube in the recycling
Taking empty bottles down from the bathroom
Taking washing off the laundry rack

Very petty and I'm sure he would be able to say similar things about me, but I almost enjoy the satisfaction of knowing I was right.

What happens if you show dp/DH where the hiding place for the item is? Do they remember and put it away next time? If not, how would they react to you reminding them and getting them to put it away?

We have a cupboard where all the plastic containers/jugs/tupperware goes. Invariably DH will leave all the clean stuff that belongs IN it sitting ON it. He is fine with putting away all the other dishes, just not the plastics. Drives me nuts.