to not make DH meals for the foreseeable?

[FruitCakey]

Just a brief insight.

DH and I got got into a quarrel last night. He called me a "slag" supposedly as I joke! I lost it. It was out of no where and I did not find it funny. call me a prude

Then this morning, I woke up and told DH that I knew he had been awake longer than I had and wondered why he hadn't got DS any breakfast. He refused to admit he had been awake for longer than 20 minutes. Anyway, this wasn't the issue. Mid discussion he called me a "slag" again, this time he wasn't joking. I was livid. I told him I won't be doing anything for him today, including meals and that he should do it himself. He simply replied, "That's fine, your cooking is crap anyway."

So, DH and I are currently not speaking. I am not prepared to cook for him anymore. He has no respect for me at all. He is amazing 90% of the time, but then has these moments where he shocks me completely.

So... AIBU?

Hes a knob

I really feel posters on here are far too quick to shout do not stay with him!

You definitely need to lay down some ground rules such as you are not 'expected' to cook every time etc etc. When you're both calmer you really need to tell him how much his name calling offended you and address why he doesn't do things around the house. He needs to start doing things from now. If needs be do a rota.

I've had problems with my own dh with housework etc but we've made a lot of progress now. Name calling is unacceptable but also people lose their temper and it comes out, lots of these people need time to cool down before apologising. You say he's great 90% of the time, so you must want to work through this? YANBU for refusing to do anything for him until he apologises but you really need to both calm down and talk like adults about what has happened, sort it out and love forward.

He has broken a huge boundary by calling you that, hence saying it the second time today. I would be expecting a lot more name calling where that came from now that he has shown his true colours. Slippery slope.

Off the point, I know, but how would you know someone had been awake longer than you?

If there is one word i cant stand its SLAG!!!. I hate it. I hate hearing the word used by people, So being called one by someone who is supposed to love me, well upset would not be a word i would use. How could someone that is supposed to love you called you that?. Its a disgrace, and he did not call you it the once, he used it again.... Vile!!!.

Oh, and yes, let him starve :)... If your cooking is crap he wont mind doing the cooking himself everytime hes hungry.

while the cry of 'LTB' is standard on here, no-one will be posting on this board with praise of a wonderful relationship... sadly.

Now the light has dawned, OP, I really hope that an adult discussion can save this. He can change; but he has to do it himself.

if he won't change - well, then you know where you stand.

"He has broken a huge boundary by calling you that, hence saying it the second time today. I would be expecting a lot more name calling where that came from now that he has shown his true colours. Slippery slope."

This.

He's got away with it once. He's said it a second time because he got away with it once.

He has zero respect for you. He thinks himself above you. He'll up the ante. Guaranteed.