To want to be left alone while feeling poorly

[Lasttimebaby]

I have a bad chest infection and am feeling pretty miserable. Dh has had a dose all week and I reckon I got it from him as he has been coughing and spluttering all over the place all week. He has gone to bed early every night and had a quick nap here and there in the evening. Anyway I decided I would have a little lie down this eve. Left out some burgers buns and chips for ds when he came in from rugby. Anyway roll forward an hour after me lying down and dh comes up to the room. Decides he's tired and will have a lie down . I ask about ds tea and he said oh he's not hungry. Anyway I get up and cook ds tea and left the extra under grill. Dh came down later and heated it all up and ate it. He then informed he is very sick. I said yeah it a bad dose but get on with it. He then said but he has a sick stomach aswell , I said but you have just eaten a burger , chips and a yoghurt. Anyway I'm so annoyed I decided I need a bit of time to myself so as I can get a rest and feel a bit better in the morning so I'm all snug in the spare room which is all lovely and clean and doesn't smell of his stinking socks.

YANBU.

My DH is the same if I'm ill; he always has to have the same thing, or worse than me, and I can never go and just lie down if I'm ill as he's always lolling around on the bed. Still manages to watch DVDs and use his phone though

sympathies here i could have 4 hours sleep in 48 my DH will TELL me to go to sleep then wake me constantly with ds is doing this dd is doing that or he will fall asleep and dd will wake me up the worst one was when he "let" me sleep then when i woke up i asked what was for tea? he said how the fuck should i know ive been looking after the kids! apparently the 14 year old fed herself and ds 1 and he gave ds2 crisps and a biscuit i never sleep unless im half dead now

Pathetic, I think they see their DWs also as their DMs so if anyone is ill DM has to step in, whilst they play poor little boys.

Give them a blaring bollocking, loud and angry enough that they won't want to cross that line again.

My DH did that, a feigned I don't know how to run the home act, DCs are long since left home, and I now realise that is what I should have done, that way he might have treated me with more respect over the years. He still does buggar all round the house, or a little bit and looks put upon about it Grrrrrrr.

My dh is exatly the same! If I'm ever ill I can't have a lay down or nothing would get done, he wouldn't feed the kids, no dishes would be done and he would decide he was ill too. 2 weeks after having my youngest I woke up feeling awful, sick and faint and in pain but he said I don't feel well either and sat and watched me dress our children and feed them, I actually ended up in hospital I had an infection. He's been off work now for 3 weeks with a bad back and him now being the only worker I'm very worried but he says well I can't go in if my backs bad. I slept on the sofa last night after he said I don't care about him, when to me it feel like he doesn't care about us.

YANBU but chest infections aren't usually catching.

Drtodd I know they are not but it definitely started with his cold lol . Anyway I had an ok night sleep but have a busy day today. Him and the boys are heading off later to rugby stuff and me and dd have a few things to do. Would love to stay in bed but hopefully will get another good night tonight.
I really feel though that us ladies are not allowed to be poorly at all. Would just like to be left alone sometimes. Sometimes I go up stairs to go to the loo and after a few mins up he comes to see where I am , I mean wtf . Argh anyway better get up and get moving and stick uniforms in the wash.

Wtf. This isn't just the way men are. Your husbands are lazy, selfish arses.

Don't martyr yourself and soldier on. Read the bloody riot act.

Sympathies OP. I'm sure it's not ALL men but certainly most of my girlfriends say that whatever they get I'll with their DHs get the same within 24 hours only much much worse. It's a very strange phenomenon.

ill ffs. Bloody predictive text. Ffs.