To not want to receive texts at this time of night?

[MrsWinnibago]

I just got two random chatty texts from my bored but nice neighbour. She tends to share stupid pictures etc.

It's ten to ten! I want to be left alone. Do you text people this late?

I send texts or emails whenever I remember, like Harold, on the basis that the person can respond when it suits them. If I text really late I wouldn't expect the person to open it or respond there and then. Wouldn't phone after 9pm unless vital.
However, recently a friend's husband did say to me "Out of I interest how late do you think is too late to text?" so obviously they don't concur.Oops. Never occurred to me that it would be annoying. I leave my phone downstairs when I go up to bed though.

My phone is always on silent, but it is nearly always in my hand. I know if youve text, whatsapped, tagged me or emailed.me but I just ignore til im able or willing to respond. They are invitations to respond - not summons.

If you are posting on MN, then you are up for chatting by text.

YABU.

I don't send texts after 10 but would respond to one any time if I was awake. I never get silly pics though.

Really?

I choose to post here. I pick it up, put it down, as and when I choose. I am not responding to anyone elses time frame, needs or desires or topics of 'conversation'.

Not the same thing at all, as far as I am concerned.

Of course it's the same thing. It's typing on a screen.

It's not the same as I don't know you lot! I can choose a thread...look at it...post or not post. If I respond to the neighbour it's one on one.

And if I ignore the nieghbour then I'm ignoring someone I know!

You can choose to reply or not and choose to do it tomorrow. So what if it's someone you know. My phones gone off during a gripping episode of the Walking dead, sex and dinner, I've just ignored and answered when ready. You can't honestly answer every text or message right away and see it as ignoring if you don't?

You're chilling, reply tomorrow if you want a contact free night.

Ten to ten on a Friday night?! YABU

Dear goodness, it's a text message not a marching band.

But those of you who text whenever or say just put it on silent - it's annoying to have your phone buzz next to your bed while you're trying sleep. I mean, mine vibrates even even when on silent. Suppose I could turn off the vibrate though! Light bulb moment. There's no way I could leave it downstairs though. I would get phone separation anxiety.

I agree 10 to 10 is not too late though!

I think it depends who's texting you at that time as to whether it's ok or not?

Texts are ok in my view (I put my phone on silent when I go to bed) but it's calls after a certain time that REALLY annoy me.

Hope you're not one of my friends. I'm nice but bored that's why I'm on here

I don't want to turn it off as I think DH has no key...why should I turn it off? I just expect not to be bothered after 9 or so...I'm not 15! I don't need to text!

Once it goes off, it disturbs me...I find it hard to get back to what I was doing. I chill...I dip in and out of MN and other sites...I write a bit...I zone out!

PolyesterBride makes a good point. Last year, a cousin of mine announced a pregnancy to extended family via a group facebook message. I was in sleep deprived small baby hell at the time, and struggling to fall asleep at the best of times. Phone on vibrate on the bedside table. Cousin announces pregnancy about 11pm, just as I am finally nearing sleep. And then forty bloody people all send their congratulations, in a group message, every one of which is vibrating and making me jump. Too knackered to work out how to turn vibrate off. Seethed until the baby woke up. Next time I see that cousin we are having words.

StormyBrid Why didn't you turn fb notifications off?It's a one click button. it's annoying when that happens, I've had it myself, that's why I turn the notifications off if it's the usual suspects.

Then don't text OP, you're making a big deal out of nothing. Just ignore it. It disturbs for all of two seconds. If you'd been trying to sleep I'd have sympathy but you are up and doing things, two second buzz isn't that distracting.

Crikey, I wouldn't have an issue if my friend/neighbour text me late. 3am or something would be less acceptable but its not a phone call. You can read it and then choose whether or not to reply.
Unless she's constantly badgering you and peeking through the curtains, looking at you with accusing eyes

Just don't reply until the morning. No big deal.

if someone sent me a text now i would be pleased :)

I think people are being quite rude to you OP.

Sorry but who are they to decide that 9.50pm isn't late? If it's late for you, then it's late for you, and the buzzing of a phone even on silent is very intrusive. I don't answer any texts after 9pm, unless it was something urgent, but then only my DDs and two friends ever text me, so I get very few at that time of night anyway.

phones have an off button. Use it.

there are separate devices called 'alarm clocks' which will only make a noise at the time that you decide.

oh, and texts can take 24 hours to arrive so are not a form of communication for anything urgent.

My friends text at all hours, as do I.

Whether they or I respond depends on what we're doing.

It's just a text