To be annoyed with nursery over milk?!

[Leonas]

My dd is 9months and goes to nursery 3 days per week. Overall, the nursery is fab and she has a great time there - lots of activities and time playing outside, healthy and interesting menu and the staff know her well and she adores them.
But, for the second time I have had her daily diary back saying that she was given milk to drink at snack time. At home she only has water (still breastfeeding twice a day) and I specified in her care plan that she should only have water. It is even written on the dietary requirements board next to the sign in desk! There is no medical reason for her not having it (she has cows milk in her cereal etc) but it is recommended that babies don't have cows milk to drink till 1 year and I would prefer she doesn't get used to having anything but water from her cup just now.
Am I right to be annoyed or am I being too pfb?!

As pp have said, there isn't a medical problem with children drinking milk before 12 months. It's more it can't be a substitute for breast or formula milk eg the main drink or feed.

However, if you have stated no milk then that should be that. They shouldn't be giving your child what you don't want unless you had requested battery acid and cocktail cherries.

I went back to work when ds was nearly ten months. On the days I was at work he only bf twice a day. He would not take formula or expressed milk (took me a while to get him to drink cows milk when he was older).
Point being he was perfectly fine on these two feeds a day snd soon started the same pattern when I was at home, dropping to just night feed at eleven months. He was a very good eater and drank water the rest of the time. OP dd could well be fine on just the two feeds a day.
OP speak to the nursery if they've done it a couple of times before and nothings been said they may think you're not that bothered.

Agree with those saying it's not the milk that is the issue it is that they have ignored your wishes.

There is no health implications allergy aside for a child under 1 it just shouldn't be their main drink.
I too don't think that water all day is enough and only two breastfeeds. At that age solids are a to compliment breast or bottle feeding not their main source of nutrition.

One thing to check is whether she's actually been given milk, or whether they've just written down that she had milk when they were writing out all the forms and putting down milk for everyone else. Either is a problem, but for different reasons.

I assume the advice about nutrients is for vit D, calcuim maybe. Its different if there is no choice because baby refuses to - i dont want them to have.
But i would want to know which vits they might be getting deficient in (as think BF you are supposed to give vit d drops already) so that i could ensure enough was being compensated for in solid foods.

Things like vitamin deficiency arent going to be obvious straight away will they - you cant say to that - he was fine as he played and slept and ran. Also if it could be compensated for with a vitamin easily we would feed cows milk and give vitamins from birth (not sure what they do put in formula as didnt use it)

YANBU to bring it up with them as if it is what's really happening then they are ignoring a parents request. I did also think that maybe they had just written that in the book by mistake - perhaps confusing with another child of a similar name or just out of habit, but again it's not a good enough answer/excuse.

Cow's milk is also too high in sodium and something else I think - too hard on baby kidneys.

Have you checked that while they might be writing milk they don't mean formula? Not that it makes it right as, like you said, they're ignoring your wishes and that's the problem. Just wondering if they're being a bit fast and loose with their terminology.

Two bf a day is fine at that age. Bm is made to your baby's requirements and they take what they need. You can't compare the volume a bf and a ff baby take at this age.

And cows milk has more sodium than formula and EBM but you'd have to give baby over a pint for it to be too salty for them, and the recent study on this was sponsored by Danone, so hardly impartial

They only take what they need if they have the opportunity though.

And twice a day is plenty. They'd take more at night if they needed it.

Thank you for all of your replies.
My dd eats very well and has fruit for snacks as well as water - should have stated that originally, so she isn't just having water!
The number of feeds a day has been dictated by her. She refused other breastfeeds and then bottles of expressed milk during the day. I was offering her a feed when I got in from work but she wasn't interested and the HV agreed it was fine to stop offering. I don't want to start her on formula at this stage and she eats everything and anything and is putting on weight/ is healthy so I am happy with her diet.
I will speak to the nursery on Monday to ensure they stick to just water as requested.