To think the teacher should have contacted me?

[weebarra]

DS1 (6), has an after school activity on a Tuesday, held at the school and arranged through them. It's for an hour.
When he appeared this afternoon, the activity leader told me that he hadn't really taken part as he wasn't feeling well and that his teacher had said he'd been the same all afternoon.
He looked like death warmed up and ate no dinner. I'm sure it's nothing serious but AIBU to think that the teacher could have got the office to contact me so that I could have picked him up before his after school thing?

Maybe they asked him if he wanted you to come get him and he said no though. I think if he was well enough to be badly wanting to do the activity, he was probably going to be OK till you came to get him at the end of it.

It might just be me but as I've always worked full time I've always told my children I wouldn't pick them up ill form school unless there was blood or vomit. Luckily they didn't suffer very much from either so it was a rare occurrence. However my youngest used to tell me about some of her friends who were ' allowed ' to go home for anything at all, she used to sound a bit envious. They are grown up now and have suffered no ill effects from my harsh parenting

I've only picked him up once before (head injury) and I'm off work at the moment recovering from cancer treatment. Apparently he did ask if he could go home but the teacher said he wasn't sick enough.

Schools find getting the balance on call/not call really hard.

There are many parents who don't want the call to collect unless the child is actually ill or properly hurt, not just feeling off colour. Some parents bring their children into school in the morning looking and/or sounding poorly but insist they will be fine.

And if we call and get the judgement wrong, parents are not happy.

Also bear in mind that bugs and illnesses come on gradual, so although he looked really poorly by the time you arrived he was possibly a bit brighter earlier on.

It's a tough one - we tend to wait it out a bit and see how they get on, and in terms of ASCs we let the child be the guide. If is is more serious obviously we call straight away, and we also call immediately for d and/or v too.

Fair enough hula, I do see your point. I'm not in any way cross and he can be a bit of a drama queen about illness!

She probably did keep an eye on him. Maybe he just seemed a bit quiet in class, but I guess it can be hard to tell, especially with 20 or 30 others to watch as well.

If he had had a raging temperature and been throwing up then undoubtedly she would have contacted you.

It sounds as if it all happened in the afternoon, and as infants mostly go home soon after 3.00 or 3.15.pm they ended up letting it ride this time??

Hope he is better soon.