Another thread got me thinking. H and I separated 6 months ago, he broke my heart and I am still devastated.
He used to be a wonderful man but decided he didn't love me as I had no time for him whilst dealing with a miscarriage, dad's heart attack, having a gynaecological operation and the death of a close relative. He began a period of analysing everything we did and finding the negative in it, even if we had a great time. For example last time we DTD he said that it was great sex but he felt that it was just sex (it was a quicky when DS was out and hardly romantic love making session).
He would say these things and I would get upset - then he would twist it to being my fault. Fast forward six months and I had a complete breakdown caused by this and other odd behaviour from him (he never believed anything I said). I have behaved irrationally at times because of the breakdown, texting crap ten times a day and crying down the phone etc.
He is now saying the breakup was my fault because despite it being he that left because he didn't love me, my behaviour after that pushed him away. He is now telling people how stressed and sad he is, and that it is not his fault.
AIBU thinking that it is not my fault and I would have not behaved like this if he hadn't have pushed and pushed my emotions to breaking point? I am recovering slowly and am beginning to lose the guilt he laid on me.