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The lady who jumped the que in sainsburys

74 replies

Homepride1 · 23/09/2014 23:25

Ok guess it's a AIBU but to be fair I'm not annoyed I actually found it bloody funny!

So today me and dp popped to our local sainsburys, as we finished we made our way to the till DP in front and me waddling behind overdue in pregnancy!

DP got to check out and put trolley up against the belt I wasn't really far behind and a elderly lady walked straight in front of me, around DP and trolley and plonked her basket on belt in front of him! The cashier was open mouthed!!!

We just looked at each other and DP said in a cheery friendly way " you alright love to the lady" the lady turned around and said yes but I have a hearing aid and pointed to the sign that states the till has the loop thingy (just to clarify that over half the tills on our local shop have this so it is not a exclusive till or anything!

Well me and DP just looked at each other and totally cracked up laughing and just carried on behind her still giggling to each other until she paid for her shopping then we done ours!

The cashier was very apologetic and clarified that the till is for everyone but being a young girl don't think she had the confidence to say anything!

So just wondered if I AIBU to think this is cheeky and having a hearing aid doesn't give you priority to skip ques?

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Wickeddevil · 24/09/2014 13:28

Home pride I would have laughed too. I am less inclined to see the funny side when people in coffee shops queue jump because they are "only" having a coffee

OnlyLovers · 24/09/2014 13:42

"Oh sorry I didn't realise " she said. I said "of course you did". Respeck.

I queue-jumped by accident the other day, having said that, because I GENUINELY didn't notice or realise where the end of the queue was. In my local supermarket, where the queue for the self-checkouts is always a bit ragged because it's on a route through the shop and everyone shifts and regroups to accommodate people walking past.

I joined what I thought was the end, then a voice said 'There's a queue.' Turned round and it was a staff member. There was a line of people glowering silently at me. I'd really rather someone had just said something than silently judging me for a genuine mistake.

MizLizLemon · 24/09/2014 13:54

I was taking a book back to the library the other day, all the self service machines were being used so I stood beside then waiting. When one became free I stepped forwards but a man who looked to be in his 70s with a walking stick showed a surprising turn of speed and nipped past me to grab the machine. The man at the nearest machine have me a raised eyebros wtf kind of look, all I could do was shrug and laugh, I wasn't about to try to stop an old man with a stick from getting out books.

A queue jumpin story with a better outcome happend when I was driving through France this summer. We were stuck in slow moving traffic coming up to a toll when a car came up the hard shoulder and sped past the jam obviously planning to push back into the line closer to the toll booth. Unfortunately for them the traffic police were sitting in a hard shoulder just out of sight and we past the car a few minutes later to see its driver having her licence taken by the police.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 24/09/2014 14:23

Most audacious queue jump I was involved with.....
few years back when the petrol shortages were in force, there were queues to get anywhere near a petrol station.
I was waiting to turn left into a side road, but was in a queue of cars (who I assume were waiting to get into the petrol station)

A car coming towards me cut right across me, the passenger blatantly held up the Blue Badge in the side window.

I was but I wasn't even waiting for the petrol queue so didn't bother me. The other people in the queue were less amused.

nomdemere · 24/09/2014 14:27

"Oh sorry I didn't realise" she said. I said "of course you did"*

That has happened to me on many occasions (see my earlier post about being severely visually impaired). It makes me feel very sad each time.

Yes, there are many rude queue jumpers about. But there are also some people like me who genuinely miss seeing queues / find it difficult and confusing to know where to stand. Be sure you know which you are dealing with before you make your snarky little comments. They can strike deep.

Crinkle77 · 24/09/2014 15:36

Old people always go on about the young being rude but I find the older generation far ruder particularly with regards to getting on the bus. They push, shove and queue jump and are quite blatant about it. I would always let someone older than me get on the bus first but it is exceptionally rude to just barge in front. I also find that old people think it is acceptable to turn round and stare at you.

cherrybombxo · 24/09/2014 16:00

Crinkle77 I'm quite heavily tattooed (colourful traditional art) and so it's open season for old people to stare at me. One once accosted me in the street, demanding to know why I'd "ruined my lovely body" and ranting that "no man would want me now". I quickly said, "no worries there, I'm a lesbian!"

I'm not, but the look on her face was great!

ginslinger · 24/09/2014 16:55

I accept that I'm older but not elderly. I see elderly as being 70+

( waits for queue of 70+ to come and tell me they're not elderly either

Nanny0gg · 24/09/2014 17:47

Question re queuing etiquette.

You are in a self-service restaurant. Everyone is queuing for hot food then the till (only one line). You just want a drink, which is after the food, just before the till.

Should you wait or can you queue jump?

chariotsofire · 24/09/2014 17:59

Nanny- I have been the queue jumper in that situation. Just wanted to go and pay for hot food I had already ordered. Couldn't imagine that it would make any difference to the 'older' lady in front of me who was waiting to order a cup of tea. I decided it made no sense for me to watch her order and wait for her tea so I moved past her. I got thoroughly tutted at as she muttered 'young folk' under her breath...

... I'm 41!

I returned to my place in the queue.

Methe · 24/09/2014 18:05

I was once jumped in front of by a twat in a BMW at a petrol station. I was fuming, the people in the cars behind me were fuming and he pissed the cashier off so much she refused to start his pump untill we had all been and gone.

He looked like an angry tomato as we all laughed at him.

ProudAsPunch92 · 24/09/2014 18:13

Why is everyone getting their knickers in a twist about the words 'elderly' and 'old' being used? I get referred to as 'young' all the time - I'm 23 and wouldn't class myself as young (own house, children, long term relationship etc) but it's merely being used as an adjective so I don't see the problem.

I think it's great the way you handled the situation, a lot of people would have let it ruin their day but you just laughed it off

traviata · 24/09/2014 18:20

seasavage your DD is a treasure! What a great response.

alsmutko · 24/09/2014 18:33

I've queue-jumped (nearly) by mistake myself, when I saw a group of women chatting by a cashier, another cashier came to the counter saying 'who's next' so I went forward. But no, those women chatting were not al together, someone was also waiting for a cashier but I don't know how anyone was supposed to know that. If it'd been me waiting to get served with a group of friends I would've waited separately in the queue, or waited to get served by the same cashier. To make matters worse, although apologising and letting one of the women through to the cashier, I had to endure a couple of minutes of tutting, muttering and glaring.
It's a real minefield.
OTOH, having a child with you to point out other people's bad manners is excellent (though she's not a child any more, she's still likely to call out)

NoImSpartacus · 24/09/2014 18:34

I always challenge queue jumpers. Always. It's just plain bad manners to push in front of someone, as if their time is more precious than yours.

I simply tap them on the shoulder and point out their misdemeanour. I am not easily embarrassed so don't care about making a 'scene', not that I'm ever aggressive, just assertive. I would let an old person push in, but I would still think they were bloody rude!

I'm a youngest old bag in town

VelvetEmbers · 24/09/2014 18:51

I got accused of queue jumping on Monday. It was lunchtime and most of the staff from my office go to Asda at 12, so it was heaving. I went to the self serve queue and it was so long that I walked down the shop to the normal tills. Every lane had a queue and it was a struggle to get round people. (The queues were blocking the main gangway)

Two women came down from one of the aisles and shoved their trolley out where I was walking. I had to dodge round them to avoid being hit. Saw a queue that wasn't too long and went there, to be followed by these women muttering "typical". They then stood behind me muttering. I missed the first bit but it was clearly directed at me. They finished with "she obviously isn't a very nice person".

I was very tempted to turn round and say "no I'm not a nice person so shut the fuck up" but decided it wasn't worth the effort. They went off to another till. They had a full trolley and I had a basket, and actually they had tried to push in front of me, because I was there first.

ExpiredUserName · 24/09/2014 18:56

Lol, she was just doing the innocent old lady trick. I'd have called her out on it.

5Foot5 · 24/09/2014 18:59

A man at the self service tills probably thought I was queue jumping but I maintain he was being weird. There are six tills and one queue. When I got there there was no one in the queue and one till free so I went to use it. I noticed what appeared to be an abandoned trolley near the till but definitely no one there and the till was not in use. I started to ring my stuff through and then this man appeared at my side and said "It's ok I will wait till you have finished" It seems he had got to the till then realised he had forgotten something so left his trolley there while he went off to get it. He just got a look from me. I mean you can't really do that in a busy shop can you?

Inertia · 24/09/2014 19:59

Gunslinger my great- grandmother refused to use a wheelchair on the grounds that they were for old people.

She was 99.

Nanny0gg · 25/09/2014 01:41

Why is everyone getting their knickers in a twist about the words 'elderly' and 'old' being used?

Wait till you're 60 and ask yourself that question then.

rumbelina · 25/09/2014 06:41

Oh this has reminded me of a conversation at a bus stop with a lovely woman who was definitely in her 80s. We were talking about how the buses fly round corners and you have to hold on tight. She said 'it's the elderly folk I feel sorry for'. I fell a little bit in love with her for saying that

Workytypestuff · 25/09/2014 06:53

A lot of people reckon young people are rude these days and often forget just how rude elderly people can be too! This is a prime example!

Very rude of her, but i think i would also have to laugh, probably in shock!

Flipflops7 · 25/09/2014 07:10

Crinkle, old people queue-jump at the bus stops to get to the seats they are no longer routinely offered by younger people.

I'm not old nor even MN old, yet, but the physical changes are very real, ALREADY.

When I get on buses I join the general free-for-all and I am just waiting to be challenged by a younger person, upon which I will say, yeah I used to queue but younger people showed me a better way :)

jakesmith · 25/09/2014 07:36

I can't stand q jumpers they undermine the manners that make our society work.

I was at a farmers market last week and there was a q of about 10 people at an Algerian food stall. I was next to be served and this 60 year old woman came over and made it look like she was checking the food out. Then she tried to put her order in in front I me! The guy behind me muttered 'what's going on here' and I said 'there is a queue here' and she said 'I've been waiting too!', then the guy behind me meekly let her in and they had a great laugh about it together.

Personally I'd have made her go to the back but I had been served by then

And I also find that these people tend to usually be quite posh, and have a real sense of entitlement. I was raging!!

But if they're truly an old duffer then you can't get angry really bless

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